In our understanding, adequacy is behavior that corresponds to the norm, as well as to written and unwritten rules. A person who does not go beyond the agreed framework is perceived by us as adequate. He does not create significant discomfort for others, does not harm society and is not dangerous to himself.
Adequacy and norm
Adequacy is closely related to the concepts of "norm" and "normality". A mentally he althy person always behaves adequately to the situation. He succumbs to emotions, but does not allow them to overwhelm him. While a mentally ill person often experiences broken, wrong emotions and cannot control them.
But the most difficult thing in this matter is to determine what is the norm? Who writes them? How are they invented? Do they even exist?
If our man comes to Japan, the first thing that will strike him is the inadequacy of the locals. Of course, he will judge by our standards. Bright anime costumes, causing make-up in broad daylight … In the post-Soviet countriesspace, such a person would be perceived as an eccentric. And in Japan, this is the norm.
Inhabitants of other countries perceive us in the same ambiguous way, believing that bears walk the streets in Russia.
Adequacy - good or bad?
Of course it's good. But who is such an absolutely adequate person? He looks at the world too soberly, does not wear rose-colored glasses, does not give in to emotions, he has everything laid out on the shelves, he strictly follows his plan, etc. It looks like a robot, doesn't it? Each person should be a little inadequate, but at the same time look at things soberly.
As for psychological adequacy, here we will talk about mental he alth, which, of course, is considered the norm.
Matching
Adequacy is, first of all, compliance. A chair can correspond to a table, a cup can correspond to a saucer, appearance can correspond to an event, an act can correspond to a situation. Adequacy is also a sense of proportion. Each person, without exception, committed acts that did not correspond to generally accepted norms. If a person can admit his mistakes, then he is considered adequate.
Many children still do not know how to comply with the unwritten rules of society, just for this they need parents, teachers and mentors. By assimilating the norms and accepting our mistakes, we become adequate.
It's a completely different matter when a person lives in an illusory world where his personal constitution operates. He does not recognize all those who do not correspond to his ideas of good and evil.
Twistedattitude
I would like to talk in more detail about those individuals who have a distorted worldview. This can happen as a result of improper upbringing, mental illness or trauma.
What is the biggest problem of such individuals? They do not understand the elementary rules of morality and do not know what is good and what is bad. They create their own carefully written "constitution", which they are guided by. They also have their own "Criminal Code". They have created their own framework and think within them. Their beliefs are so stony and unshakable that it is not possible to move them.
They have problems with self-awareness and worldview. Such people cannot be helped by psychological or spiritual literature, since they accept only that information that does not contradict their canons. They ignore all the unpleasant moments or adjust them to fit their constitution. But those quotes from the smart book that coincide with their postulates will be cited as indisputable proof of their correctness.
How to learn adequacy?
The adequacy of perception is not given to us from birth - it is an acquired experience. Associating with sober-minded people and observing their behavior gives you the opportunity to define the limits of normal for yourself.
They say that the biggest prison for a person is the fear of what others will think of him. Perhaps, but precisely because of this fear, which can leave an imprint not only on a person, but in the worst cases, on her family,many people refrain from doing things that are anti-moral or inappropriate.
If a person realizes that he thinks in some matters or does not act soberly, he is practically cured. He will observe with great attention people whose actions are approved by society or admired, and will begin to imitate them. Then he will acquire his personal handwriting and become an adequate unique personality.
The biggest challenge
Do you know why a person needs religion? The human brain has to believe in something. Atheism is also a kind of religion. By this word, we mean the foundation on which the idea of the world is built.
Giving up your beliefs is the same as giving up yourself. Only to imagine that all those truths in which you believed throughout your life are false, not everyone can. It is a painful process of saying goodbye to the old self. Only a strong desire to integrate into a certain society can make a person give up his ideas. The problem is that as you get older it gets harder and harder to change yourself.
In addition, our perception is influenced by our social connections, the people with whom we have to communicate every day. Therefore, you should avoid bad society and ill-mannered people with a low level of adequacy.
How to identify an inadequate person?
It must be said that depending on the psychotype, adequacy can manifest itself in different ways. Someone shows their weaknesses, showing off a new model of an expensive smartphone orcar, another is behaving aggressively, a third is talking to himself while walking down the street.
In favorable conditions, inadequacy may not manifest itself in any way, but it is worth being in an extreme environment, as all the oddities come out.
Of course, first we pay attention to the appearance of a person. If he is slovenly, not fashionably dressed and not combed, then immediately it seems that he is strange. However, it is worth noting that many great people who made a breakthrough in science and are called geniuses by us looked something like this.
On the other hand, genius cannot be called adequacy, since it does not correspond to generally accepted standards, but rises above them. And without inadequacy with a plus sign, humanity could not have reached such a level of development.
People at the level of intuition can distinguish a mentally he althy person from an unhe althy one. This will be indicated by his gait, gesticulation, verbal communication, reaction to what is happening.
