Fortunately, now less and less girls are being brought up in petty-bourgeois and prudish traditions. Nevertheless, there are families where mothers and grandmothers vied with each other that you can’t trust a man in anything, that anyone who wants to get to know a young lady is looking for only light entertainment. Is this true and why are such stereotypes about gender relations dangerous?
Of course, the time is now difficult, dangerous, restless. Increasingly, a person has to make his own choice, to take responsibility for his actions. There is no institution of matchmaking, when the betrothed was checked up to the tenth generation and only then they were graciously allowed to ask for the hand of a girl from a good home. The seriousness of intentions towards the lady seemed to be an indicator of the reliability of the marriage and the future spouse. However, now we laugh at many stereotypes. After all, they depend mainly on our negative experience or, even worse, on the prejudices hammered into the head of the elder.generations. People brought up in a system of total control and suspicion are sure, firstly, that a man cannot be trusted, and secondly (this applies to potential mothers-in-law) that all girls only look at what is in the wallet or in the pocket of the future groom.
It is possible to live in an atmosphere of suspicion and fear, but what kind of life is this? If a young girl has been hammered into her head since childhood that a man cannot be trusted in anything, then how will she be able to see a person in a potential partner? Will she be able to understand and appreciate his needs, his feelings, his positive qualities? Or will he be treated like an enemy, with suspicion, and only wait for the slightest slip?
According to modern psychologists and family therapists, there is nothing that a man cannot be trusted. On the contrary, any measures aimed at preserving the family or union imply, first of all, openness and sincerity. Not trusting another person, the closest, we deprive ourselves of the most important thing - real cordial communication with him. Stereotypes in marriage can only exacerbate problems. In fact, there is practically nothing that cannot be trusted to a man. A loving person will swaddle a baby, and cook dinner, and provide for the family. Families, in which roles have long been rigidly distributed, wonder how a young husband can learn to serve himself and, if necessary, his wife and child. After all, none of us is immune from illness, temporary disability, life's disasters.
Based onprinciple that no one can be trusted, then we will never be able to build a harmonious relationship with another person. Think for yourself: how would you feel if others perceived you only as a source of problems or a dangerous person? Is it really an uncomfortable situation? Prejudices about gender roles - like not trusting a man, that all girls are frivolous and looking for rich spouses, that a woman should stay at home and raise children, and a partner will earn a living - only complicate our relationships. Sincerity and warmth will be the first step towards harmony in marriage. They are impossible without real - total - trust.
