People get offended at each other, and this is quite natural. It is rare that someone inflicts insults in adulthood on purpose. The fact is that all people are different, everyone has their own perception of reality and attitude towards it. And since they grew up in different conditions, in different families, and different values were instilled in them, it is quite logical that they are offended by different things. But, in general, all grievances have a common root. In this article, we will talk about offended men.
Reasons
What are the representatives of the stronger sex most often offended by?
- Comparison with others. Men do not like being compared to other, more successful individuals who are capable, smart and strong. At any age, a person wants to feel his uniqueness. A man needs to understand that he is admired and bowed before him. If this does not happen, resentment appears.
- Inattention. The man is jarringfemale neglect. The representative of the stronger sex wants his girlfriend to always be in touch and find time to answer the phone. If this does not happen, the offended man begins to think that the lady is pretending to be a snow queen and deliberately ignores him.
- Discussing problems with others. Girls are used to discussing their personal problems with their friends. And to do this, according to men, is not worth it. Not a single representative of the stronger sex will approve of the actions of the chosen one, who, in secret, will tell the whole world about the failures of her partner and his faults.
- Rejection of interests. The guy must understand that he is admired. If a girl does not share the interests of her lover, and even more so if she neglects them, the man will definitely be offended.
- Unrealized expectation. When people meet, they involuntarily make plans for each other and place some hopes. When something does not go according to plan, and a person does not cope with the implementation of the mission entrusted to him, resentment arises.
Degree of resentment
How to understand how much you hurt the feelings of an offended man? You need to know the degree of resentment. There are three of them:
- Weak. The man is offended, but he will not show it in any way. People say that you touched the thin strings of the soul. For example, a girl could laugh at something important to a guy. A man will quickly forgive such a case to his chosen one, but only if the situation does not repeat itself.
- Average. A man may be hurt by attacks on his lifestyle orway of thinking. A woman who criticizes the behavior of her chosen one should always argue her position. If this does not happen, the man will take criticism with hostility.
- Strong. You can never criticize and condemn the project of a man, on which he worked for a long time. Yes, a representative of the stronger sex may have self-irony and show you his shortcomings, but you are not allowed to do the same. Never hurt what is important for a man in life.
Consequences
What is fraught with male resentment? A person will reconsider his attitude towards the offender, and will no longer treat him the same way as before. Men give a second chance to a man much less often than women do. Have you strongly hurt the representative of the stronger sex? He can erase you from life and reduce communication to a minimum. Do you find this way of ignoring childish? But in fact, it is very difficult to take and alienate a person who was once very close.
An offended man will control his emotions, but inside he will boil. For an offended person, life changes. He sees everything in dark colors, and nothing pleases him. It is possible to deal with such a state, but it is difficult. You need to let go of the situation so that it no longer touches the soul. Anger and rage corrode a person from the inside and loosen his nerves. If you do not want such a fate, then do not accumulate resentment.
Behavior
A person in whose soul passions rage stands out from the crowd. How does an offended man behave? If the representative of the stronger sex is distinguished by endurance and good upbringing, then the person will notshouting at you and blaming you for ruining his life. During the conversation, the man will become laconic. At this time, he will consider a plan for revenge, or a plan for how to respond to the offense inflicted on him. Thoughtfulness will be written on his face, and even if the opponent decides to defuse the atmosphere with a joke, the man will not react. Resentment hurts a person painfully, and he cannot swallow it right away. After a strong resentment, a man can talk to you as if through his teeth, in fits and starts. The human body will be tense. It may seem to the opponent that the interlocutor deliberately controls not only all his words, but also gestures. Most often this is true. In order not to break loose and lose his temper, a man can focus on movements that, at the same time, will come out sharp and angular.
How to understand that a man is offended
Watch the individual. If he behaves unnaturally or is very restrained, this indicates a deep thoughtfulness of the person. How to offend a man? You can hurt a person in many ways: make fun of something important to him, insult his family, or criticize an activity. What will happen next? An offended person can boil. If a man does not know how to control emotions, then his face will turn red, and his fists will clench. Such rage will be involuntary reactions. After all, it was with the help of fists that our ancestors solved almost all their problems.
If a man does not experience aggression, then he can simply avoid his offender. He will not ignore it completely, but will try lesscontact with an unpleasant person.
How to make peace?
A strongly offended man will not want to make contact with you. You'll have to put in some effort. How to build a relationship with a person? Sincerely ask for forgiveness. Say that you did not know that your words would cause such a response in the soul of a person. Be sure to mention that you will not allow such statements again, and will continue to watch your language.
But there are situations when a man does not want to admit that he was offended. Some people think that being offended is a woman's destiny. Men cannot be offended. Therefore, not all representatives of the stronger sex immediately admit that they were offended. However, you still need to apologize. Even if a person does not blame you, he will be pleased to hear the words of your repentance.
Never mess with someone who isn't ready to talk to you. Each individual is used to experiencing the offense inflicted on him in his own way. For someone, two minutes is enough to forgive the offender, while for someone it will take two days or even two years.
Resentment against the team
What does an offended man do? If a representative of the stronger sex is offended by his colleagues, he is unlikely to show it to them. A man does not want to seem weak to people. He will change his tone to a sarcastic one and will even be able to laugh at himself together with everyone. If a man is injured by people with whom he has to contact every day, then a representative of a stronggender, there will be nothing left but to reconsider their attitude towards people. It is quite difficult to contact those who do not respect your interests.
What should employees do if they feel one of their colleagues cooling down? You should gradually introduce the offended man into the circle of his constant communication. Do not pretend that the offense was not inflicted. The person should be made aware that such an incident will not happen again.
Resentment against friends
There are not as many legends about offended men as there are about women. The thing is that males are offended less often. Misunderstandings with friends do not happen so often. So what if it does happen? In this case, a man can tell that he is hurt by the words of a friend, and openly make it clear that it is pointless to continue talking in such a spirit and on such a topic. If a friend turned out to be adequate, then resentment will not develop into anger. The topic will be closed, and the anguish will not happen. If a person is not very sane, and, despite all the warnings, he climbs on the rampage, then a friend can cool the ardor not only with words, but also by applying physical influence. Everything will depend on the degree of resentment and on the personality of the offender.
Resentment against a girl
How to offend a man with words, every beautiful lady knows. Enough to hit him to the quick. For example, start criticizing parents, lifestyle or friends. It should be understood that an adult person himself forms his environment, habits andliving standards. If the established rules suit a man, then he will be offended when someone encroaches on them. Is the resentment of a man for a girl and for friends different? Yes. A man will not openly show his feelings to a lady. Representatives of the stronger sex are very scrupulous in this matter. They don't even express jealousy too much. But they can pour out boiling emotions on a lady during a scandal. If a guy keeps everything to himself and does not share his grievances with you, then expect that in the event of even a trifling quarrel, you will receive a decent portion of insults. Therefore, always try to be frank in a relationship and demand the same from a partner.
Resentment against parents
How to understand that a man is offended? Parents, like no one else, should be aware of the feelings of their child. But it often happens that the child grows up, changes, and the parents do not want to see the changes or cannot see them because of their bias. Misunderstanding, mistrust and lack of appreciation cause resentment in the soul of every person. All men secretly want their parents to be proud of them. But what happens if this simple truth does not reach the minds of older people? They begin to move away from the child. A man closes himself and shares less and less information with loved ones. In order not to spoil the relationship with the child, you constantly need to keep in touch with him. This does not mean that you need to call him daily. You can communicate once a week and be closer to him than many friends and the girl he sees every day. Parents should be wise and reasonable. Do not offend the child andalways support him. After all, protection and faith in the abilities of children inspire them and inspire them to new achievements.
