What are real men like? Aren't they the ones dressed in fine tailcoats, driving expensive cars, drinking long-aged cognac, smoking Cuban cigars, swaying in a rocking chair by the fireplace in a country mansion? Or those that take the child to kindergarten in the morning, then run to work, and take them to training in the evening? What qualities should they have? We will understand this topic.
Learn the opinion of psychologists
A real man is a person realized in his personal life and career. So this is:
- A business that brings moral satisfaction and material well-being.
- The family (rear) that he loves, cares about and is responsible for.
Both bring joy. And the material level is different for everyone. A successful man is one who has enough money to feed himself and his family, and at the same time remain happy and loved. And now let's talk in more detail about the qualities of a real man.
Psychologists identify several main criteria
What should a man be like, in their opinion? So:
- To have a sense of responsibility and not only be responsible for your words and actions, but also take care of loved ones.
- Be able to admit your mistakes, ask for forgiveness.
- Set a goal and move towards it.
- Be gallant towards women.
- Be able to compromise.
- Be brave, honest and courageous.
- And also a hardworking, supportive family.
- To have empathy, the ability to empathize.
The image of a real man is still collective. After all, for every woman, her boyfriend must have a certain set of qualities that are acceptable to her. But there is a general idea of psychologists what a real man should be. He has the following character traits.
Responsibility
This is one of the best male qualities. With such a person it is not scary to go through life, create a family. Because he is responsible for his loved ones. A woman behind his back will feel protected both mentally and materially. The only thing he can demand in return is love and understanding.
A man is responsible for words and deeds. First think, then do. Moreover, he values time, he alth and respects his choice. He will not exchange for other women, because it is inexpedient, meaningless. Why create problems for yourself? He is always responsible for his own actions,keeps his word.
Kindness
Do not confuse this quality with softness. And in no case can not be assumed that this is a sign of weakness. Let's run far ahead. A kind and affectionate dad is the dream of any kid. Only sincerity and a sense of compassion, humanity will help to grow a real man out of a child. Moreover, this quality is the key to a he althy psychological climate in the family, which is of great importance for the formation and development of a small personality.
A good man is a wonderful friend, buddy and companion. It is easy with him, because in actions and deeds you will not have to look for a second meaning or background. He will do anything for good without asking for anything in return.
Smart and confident
Any woman dreams of meeting a smart man, with whom she will not be ashamed to go out into society and be alone with comfort and ease. He will always find a smart and rational solution to a problem. Competently set a goal and achieve it, be able to support any conversation, shining with his erudition.
The second important quality allows you to achieve the maximum. Only a self-confident man can become happy and successful, because he believes in his strength, knowledge and capabilities. He competently extracts experience from a past life, skillfully using it to build the future. Knows his own worth. And he will never assert himself at the expense of others, because this quality distinguishes it from arrogance. These are the essential qualities of a real man.
Self-control
Without him it is impossible to become a real man. This quality refers to volitional characteristics and includes courage, endurance, determination, masculinity, everything that will contribute to the suppression of negative feelings and desires. Directly related to self-control of emotional mental behavior.
Let's try to get closer to the ideal
Learn about the hallmarks of a real man. So:
- He only counts on himself.
- Self-sufficient.
- Independent.
- Master of his word.
- Purposeful.
- Reliable and dedicated.
- Has a sense of humor.
- Generous.
A real man is one with whom it is comfortable to live. A very important characteristic is loy alty, which, unfortunately, is not for everyone, as well as masculinity. Now that we know the signs of a real man, the image of a reliable father of the family gradually began to emerge in front of us. Of course, there are no perfect people, but you always want to strive for perfection. How to raise a boy to be a real man?
Let's give some recommendations
We already understand what a real man should be, but how to make a son one?
- The main thing is not to deprive the child of love and affection. Parents are deeply mistaken that the boy should be less sorry. On the contrary, it is necessary to give him warmth and tenderness as much as possible, so that in adult life there is an example to follow. He will treat his children the same way.
- Don't be ashamedfor tears. The boy needs to release emotions, accumulated resentment, and so on. There is nothing shameful in this. Otherwise, he will accumulate all this inside himself, which can lead to sad consequences, such as a nervous breakdown, depression, psychological trauma.
- Don't hold back his mobility. Their physiology must be taken into account. Boys are more mobile and energetic than girls. Give your son as much space as possible for normal development. Take your child to the hockey or football section.
- Don't scold your son for no reason. He must understand why he is punished or reprimanded in order to give a second opportunity to lose this situation and get out of it correctly. It is not worth it for a long and tedious reprimand. Boys cannot hold emotional tension for a long time. They catch only the first words. Therefore, choking on emotions, you will not convey anything to your child. He will simply turn off and will not perceive information at all.
- Help me find the way out of energy in the right way. Attach to the cleaning, ask for help to carry the bags to the apartment. Chase with your son the ball in the stadium.
It is very important that a child grows up in an emotionally he althy family. He must see the careful and caring attitude of his father towards his mother, learn to treat her with the same respect. After all, the way a real man behaves will become the best example for a small person.
It is necessary to educate a boy not in words, but in deed. Create situations around him that would allow him to show and show himself from the best side. Praise, constantlyemphasizing that he is a man, brave, brave and honest.
Engage with your child
We continue to figure out how to raise a boy to be a real man. By the age of five or six, the baby will become interested in his father's instrument. Do not drive him away with swear words from the box with dangerous items. On the contrary, let the father demonstrate their skills, give the child a hammer in his hands and help him hammer in the first real nail. After all, it will be useful to him in the future.
As they grow older, the baby should be explained how to behave with girls, and from the sandbox to talk about what they need to give in, protect, help and cannot be offended.
The boy should have his own idol, a role model, as a rule, this is his father, but he may want to become a strong and famous hockey player or film actor. This may be a book hero, so it will be possible to invite the child to read an interesting exciting book or go to the cinema or theater together.
It is the parents who instill in the child love, tenderness, affection, such qualities as compassion, humanity, tact, and the ability to empathize. And they also teach to help people, respect elders. A father must show his son by personal example how to treat a woman. And the mother will teach independence, accuracy, fully endow the child with love, kisses and affection. There is nothing shameful in sitting a first-grader on your lap, hugging him tightly and pressing him to your chest. The son should feel maternal warmth and paternal care. And then notthere will be no doubt that a real man will grow out of him.
A little about the psychology of men
This is an important question - to know how their inner world works. The psychology of a real man is the psychology of a conqueror, winner, earner. A woman needs to understand what her other half wants. Support him always and in everything, help him become successful, direct, and most importantly, be an assistant in any endeavor. After all, he does not need so much - a reliable rear and a quiet berth. A calm emotional homely atmosphere, comfort and warmth will allow him to calm down after a hard day's work, gain strength and energy to conquer new heights.
You should not compete with him in any way, thereby belittling his dignity. Do not rule over him, because by nature every man seeks power. Let your companion be the leader in the family. Since he is reputed to be a conqueror, always remain an unread book.
By nature they are stubborn. And here it is necessary to show cunning and flexibility. Only taking into account the psychological characteristics of a man, a woman is able to use them for her own purposes and give the chosen one those qualities that are lacking. Just let him be a protector and support, inspired and loved, he will move mountains and become a real man for you.
