How to learn to control your emotions, if they sometimes overwhelm you so that under their influence you break down on your loved ones, commit rash acts, in which you later regret, bite your elbows, but nothing can be changed?
Sthenic emotions and asthenic
Emotions are divided into sthenic and asthenic. The former accelerate vital activity: small blood vessels expand, which means that the work of all organs, especially the brain, becomes more active, and you feel a surge of strength. All this happens, for example, under the influence of a feeling of joy.
Sadness and other negative emotions, on the contrary, slow down all processes in the body, reduce brain and motor activity, make a person feel tired and exhausted.
But any emotion is an integral part of the human psyche. Therefore, it is impossible not to experience them at all, but to suppress and ignore them is harmful. But managing them is not an easy task, but it is quite feasible. How to learn to control youremotions? Several actions need to be taken.
Causes of emotions
Most likely, you can't always tell exactly why you were "out of sorts" during the day and eventually broke down in a conversation with someone in the household. The fact is that the cause of a bad mood is often some little thing that instantly causes irritation. For example, you didn't like the loud music on the bus you were driving to work. Surely you will soon forget about it in the cycle of affairs, but the irritation will remain. And it will seem to you that it is your colleagues or family members who are behaving inappropriately.
Another unnoticed reason could be some disturbing or sad thought that flashed through your mind. For example, the boss did not say hello to you - and it seemed to you that he wants to fire you. Having traced such anxiety, you may wonder: is there any serious reason for it?
Statement and understanding
How to learn to control your emotions? The first step is to catch the moment when they arose and understand what actually caused them. Observe yourself for a while and you will become more conscious of your feelings.
Separation from emotion
The second step to gaining control is to step back from your negative experiences. When you learn to notice them and understand their causes, you will no longer turn your attention to the stimulus, but to the emotion itself. Observe it as if it is not a part of you, but some separate being. YourEmotions are, of course, a part of you, but not all of your consciousness. When you separate an emotion from yourself, it will no longer be able to completely capture you, master you, as before, and will quickly disappear.
Taking Control
How to learn to control your emotions and how long will it take? Control can be acquired far from immediately and not completely: like any other skill, it comes gradually, is achieved in small steps. It is hardly possible to immediately change one's attitude to the world around, to events and people.
