A self-sufficient person is a person who does not depend on anyone or anything (even on weather conditions), makes independent decisions, no matter how extraordinary they may be, but from his point of view they are correct. He lives by his own rules, solves all his problems on his own and is not afraid of loneliness. At first glance, everything seems very simple, but it takes effort.
A self-sufficient person is a person who does not want and cannot be bored. He will always find something to do, even to the point that he will be interested in pulling his own cat's tail. Such an individual can occupy himself both physically and mentally. He seeks to understand everything, because life does not stand still: new technologies appear, discoveries are made, everything in the world is changing globally. A self-sufficient woman is an interesting, intelligent, beautiful person who can provide for herself. That is, shecan spend money and not report to anyone, since she earns it herself (the same can be said about men).
How to become self-sufficient?
To become a self-sufficient woman, you need:
1. Continually educate yourself beyond basic education, of course, so that everyone admires your intelligence.
2. Take care of yourself: go to fitness clubs, beauty salons, etc. - so that everyone admires your appearance and article.3. Set goals and achieve them under any circumstances - so that everyone admires your success.
But in fact, a confident person does not care deeply about who and what they think.
The level of self-sufficiency is different for everyone
Suppose a person has a house, a piece of land, and he grows roses on it. He enjoys it. He stands firmly on the ground, knows his business, does not depend on anyone, makes his own decisions (when to water, what color to grow roses, where to plant, to whom to sell them and for how much). This person considers himself self-sufficient. He is not bored!
Now consider the life of a simple teacher. His class is the best in school: high academic performance, activity in school life and all the best in his class. Hence the respect from colleagues, high wages, love of students, etc. The teacher considers himself professionally self-sufficient.
Now imagine that we have the president of a country in front of us. Thanks to his reforms, the countryis developing at full speed. It is flourishing: the standard of living of people in the country is high. The President is satisfied with his work and his position in society - he is self-sufficient. Everything is done according to his instructions. He is successful in everything and everywhere. All three levels listed above are related to professional self-sufficiency.
The other side of the coin
But, in addition to professional, there is also personal confidence. This is self-sufficiency in terms of love. Again consider three levels.
1) The man is handsome, charming, has a lot of money, changes girls every week, he has many admirers. He considers himself a self-sufficient person. He is happy with his life. He likes to court girls, achieve his goal and not depend on anyone.
2) Another option: a guy who is courting one girl is head over heels in love with her. He is happy and confident in his choice.
3) And, finally, a person who has a family and children, he earns decently, children are obedient. He also considers himself a self-sufficient person. When a person has achieved the goal and can now do everything for himself perfectly, he begins to take care of his loved ones. If you combine love and a professional plan, you get the overall self-sufficiency of a person.
Summarize
A self-sufficient person can stand firmly on his feet, achieve his goal, he is independent. Although these are two different concepts. A person can be independent, earn money, solve problems, but he will beuncomfortable being alone.
What is self-sufficiency? This is complete independence both externally and internally. Then it turns out that a self-sufficient person is lonely, but he likes to be alone with himself. Sometimes we show some separate qualities of this factor. For example, we solve problems on our own or want to be alone, sometimes we don’t even care about everyone’s opinion. The ability to enjoy life despite the “bad weather”, the ability to maintain control over your mental well-being is a skill that comes with experience. The ability to live in harmony with the inner and outer world is fundamental to achieving the desired goal, the goal of being yourself.
One can endlessly give examples of how such a person should be. But all of them would be as useless as you would try to describe the space with a pencil. Don't try to learn this from someone who is trying to be an expert on it, don't try to copy someone who only appears to be human, as that goes completely against that notion of self-sufficiency. Your personality is unique, you are unrepeatable, and therefore you have a different way to understand yourself. You don't need love, money, nothing will make you happy until you know how much you need to be happy.
What is psychological self-sufficiency?
Lack of self-sufficiency is that form of slavery to others from which abolitionism will not save us, but only complete self-confidence andcontrol over your thoughts. Why do we start to worry if someone deprives us of recognition, and not worry if someone starts to idealize us? After all, this is one and the same - a change in the assessment of one's "I" under the influence of others. When you are in society, such an existence means being under the gaze of others, and a person is not able to completely get rid of this. A person dresses in the way that is fashionable now, buys the gadget that is fashionable, and this is not because other clothes are already rags, and the old phone cannot ring, but only because this is no longer relevant.
Result
You can't say you're self-sufficient if you have different music on your phone, or you wear a clown suit to work, and you don't care about the boss's requests, because this is nothing more than an act of denial or internal rebellion.
