Today's topic of our conversation is not going to be easy. It's about suicide notes. And immediately there are associations with suicides. But in most cases, it is they who leave farewell messages. Let's talk about it.
Suicide note and suicide
A person who voluntarily passed away is weak or strong? How to decide on this? For most people, this is simply not possible. Why is this happening? As a rule, the answers lie in dying messages. The reason can be a disease, unrequited love, a huge debt hole and many other circumstances. In them, suicides ask for forgiveness for their unauthorized departure from life, or, conversely, they blame someone for their death.
The number of young people who have passed away is growing every year. It's not just scary, it's tragic. But in most cases, it can be avoided, warned. You need to listen to your children, participate in their lives. It is hard not to notice internal changes and torment, you should not hide from problems, they need to be solved, help your child always and in everything.
The scary thing is that many teenagers are preparing for this incredibly unreasonable step for a long time. They watch forums, communicate with potential suicides like themselves, study information on how to write a suicide note correctly. But by their actions they warn of their intention to leave this world.
Let's talk about teen suicide
Young people aged 10-14 are more likely to commit suicide. At the same time, it cannot be said that these are children from bad families. In 78% of cases, it was revealed that they lived in decent conditions.
There is no clear answer to why children take this terrible step. Psychologists, working with children who managed to survive after a suicide attempt, identified several main reasons:
- Hopeless love. Adolescence is a period of growing up. Children see the world differently. They change physiologically, leaving the cozy home world. They begin to build other relationships with others. From the age of 12–13, children copy the character traits of people in whom they see their idol. Therefore, it is very important to remain a friend for the child and, of course, a model of behavior. The child must be sure that you will support him in any case, listen and give advice.
- Loss of meaning in life. A child, for any reason, can immerse himself in himself, close. These may be problems with peers at school, poor relationships with family people. But parents, notnoticing problems, they will be glad that the child is calm and diligent. You need to feel your child, be interested in his life, constantly talk.
- Loneliness. A very common problem. Sometimes, for various reasons, children are left to fend for themselves. When parents disappear at work, and an old grandmother looks after the child. They lack attention. And then they begin to try by any means to turn it on themselves. And suicide is one way. The child goes to extremes to hear his cry of the soul, and in most cases he does not want death, but you can’t joke with it. Make-believe death can become real.
- Death out of spite. Often children manipulate their parents in this way if they do not buy or perform something. Like, I'll die to spite them, let them suffer.
- Family dramas. Scandals and troubles that occur in front of children very often cause suicide. They fall into depression, the terrible stress that they experience with unstable mental development exacerbates the situation. It's hard to deal with this problem on your own. It is even worse when, in the midst of a family drama, a child involuntarily becomes a witness to the words that he is a burden and a hindrance. In most cases, this becomes the last straw for taking a terrible step into the abyss, and the suicide note left behind is all that remains …
Parents, find time for your children, show care, give love and affection. We devote so much attention to this issue, because child suicide is a tragedy for all mankind. Teenage suicide notes – bells…
Alarms
To never find terrible letters, you need to learn to see and hear your children. What to look out for:
- Closedness. If the child sits at home, closed in the room, does not go out, does not make friends with anyone, and it happens to be taciturn with you. Communicate more, hug, kiss the child. The kid must understand that he can always turn to you for help.
- Indifference. The child is not interested in anything, he is able to study well, but without enthusiasm, to fulfill the requirements, due to the lack of his own desires. Offer to do something, sign up for a section or circle. Having found a hobby, he will perk up, find meaning in life.
- Simulation of the disease and inventing terrible diagnoses. The child thus conveys that he is lonely and hurt, and when you are around, it becomes easier. Then they gradually come to suicide and begin to scare them. But unfortunately, there are many cases when staged death became real.
- The most alarming call is when children speak and imagine how bad it will be for relatives and friends without them. At first, they often think about suicide, but these are just thoughts at the level of imagination. The more often you turn them in your head, the less absurd they seem. The idea grows into a thought form. One minor breakdown can be the last straw. If you notice these symptoms in a child, contact a competent psychologist.
There can be many reasons, but loving your child, theyhard to miss, just don't close your eyes to the alarm bells.
Who is to blame, you ask?
Child psychologist O. Voroshilova, who treated children after suicide attempts, claims that the full blame lies with the parents. And in most cases, it turns out that the children lived in families with a bad psychological climate.
It is important for a child:
- Understand that there are no unsolvable problems.
- Know that parents will always hear and understand.
- Be sure that when you come with grief, you will not reject it, but support it, you will not read moralizing.
- So that relatives take his problems seriously and with understanding.
You need to rejoice that the child turned to you, and not to a friend, and shared happiness or misfortune. It means that he trusts, and together you can overcome all difficulties. The main thing is to show the child that life is amazing and beautiful, and no matter what happens, there is a way out.
How do people decide to cross the line of life?
The statistics are terrible, over the past twenty years, about 800 thousand suicides have occurred in Russia, and the country is in second place in the world in terms of the prevalence of suicides. Men commit suicide more often than women, the average age of suicide for men is 45 years, women - 52 years.
Further, according to the opinion poll, it was revealed what a person needs for a he althy emotional state of mind. So, 44.2% of Russians consider having a goal in life, 41.1% - family.
What is suicide? Reasons
This is nothing more than an extreme way to escape from yourself. Man at the momentThis deep personal crisis is experiencing a strong emotional overload, and suicide is seen as the only (unreasonable) way out for him.
Suicide can be conditionally divided into accentuated and real. An imaginary suicide happens in a state of passion, and a suicide note is not found at the scene of the tragedy. In most cases, such a suicide does not end in death, because a person screams out his inner pain in such a way, he asks for help.
A real suicide is a carefully planned event. The dying message is written consciously, has meaningful information. What drives people to take this desperate step:
- unrequited love;
- family trouble;
- feeling of loneliness;
- serious illness;
- loss of a loved one;
- a state of depression.
A suicide note may indicate who pushed him to this extreme. So the reasons are:
- physical and moral bullying;
- bullying;
- rape;
- religious bigotry;
- blackmail, slander, humiliation.
But it is punishable by law. This is stated in article 110 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation “Inciting to suicide”. The World He alth Organization has presented data that every 40 seconds there is one suicide in the world, and attempts to commit suicide are 20 times more than suicide deaths.
Let's talk about death messages from famous people
TV Center host Boris Notkin passed away at the age of 75. He was found dead ondacha in the Moscow region in the Odintsovo district. A note was found next to the body. What was written in Notkin's suicide note? It contained the cause of his death. He voluntarily passed away because he was tired of suffering. In May 2017, he was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor of the fourth degree. Notkin's suicide note testified to his voluntary death.
The famous TV presenter decided not to suffer, because the disease was incurable, and to commit suicide. A suicide note from Boris Notkin and a hunting rifle, which he allegedly acquired for defense, were found nearby, from which a gunshot was fired. His wife discovered Boris Notkin's suicide note.
Another big shock
In 1994, the lead singer of the cult group Nirvana Kurt Cobain passed away. After that, a suicide letter was found, written by the musician shortly before his death.
It was kept secret, due to doubts whether it was his handwriting and when it was written. But Washington state officials did release the contents of Kurt's suicide note, which is attached to the case file.
His body, with a bullet through his head, was found on the floor of his Seattle apartment, four days after his death. The murder weapon was on his chest. Cobain's suicide note was addressed to his fictional childhood friend Bodda.
A large dose of heroin was found in the blood, but the police announced that the cause of death was a gunshot wound. Let's talk about contentCobain's suicide note. But first, let's recall the facts of his biography.
What kind of rock idol is he?
He grew up in an ordinary family, his father is a mechanic, his mother is a waitress. His interest in music woke up at the age of two. His aunt and uncle were also musicians, and at the age of seven, Kurt received a children's drum set from them.
Being an eight-year-old youth, going through the divorce of his parents, very hard. After this family drama, he becomes closed and even hostile. There was cynicism in character. At first he lived with his mother, then his own uncle committed suicide. Kurt loved him unconditionally. Then he moved to Montesano to his father, but, not finding a common language with his new wife, left his house. Lived alternately with both parents as a teenager.
Musician Warren Mason taught fourteen-year-old Kurt to play the guitar. After graduation, for a long time the guy hung around doing nothing, having fun with friends. In 1986, he got a job, on the eighth day he was arrested for drinking alcohol on foreign territory.
Subsequently, he organized a musical group, which soon broke up. Then Nirvana was born. Music combined two styles: punk and pop. The group gained incredible popularity in 1991. The halls attracted thousands of spectators. His wife is Courtney Love. They had a daughter, Frances Bean Cobain.
Death of an idol
From childhood, Kurt suffered from psychological disorders and was forced to take special drugs. And also at a young age he trieddrugs and became addicted to them, gaining a real addiction. Of course, the divorce of his parents had an effect, and his paternal uncles, alcoholics, mentally ill people who committed suicide, left their mark on his psyche.
Musician began to use heroin and suffered a severe overdose. Friends persuaded him to go to a rehabilitation clinic, but he escaped from it.
April 8, 1994, a friend found him dead in the house. Fans continue to believe that a murder was committed.
Kurt Cobain's suicide note in Russian had the following meaning
The beginning tells that he has lost the meaning of life and love for music. Kurt talks about his shame about this, writing that standing backstage when the roar of the crowd explodes, his heart does not skip. That he does not have such a passion for his work, like Freddie Mercury, who appreciated every second spent on stage, loved the audience and bathed in their applause. He opens his soul, turns himself inside out, saying that he is unable to deceive his viewer. He does not want to pretend anymore and go on stage, the time has come to leave it. Shouting great love for people, fans, shows his humanity. His emotional state was brought to a boiling point, of no return.
He mentioned his wife and daughter in the letter. He expressed his boundless love for them. He conducted a subtle psychoanalysis of seeing himself in his daughter. Frances is a dead rocker, becoming self-destructive and miserable like him. He is grateful for his good life, but marks the seven-year milestone of the psychological anguish of the child's soul, about hatred and love for humanity. He considered himselftoo impulsive and predictable. Having lost his passion, he chose a bright and short life, in fact, boring, meaningless and long. These were his last words in the letter. He expressed his love for his wife and daughter, and asked his wife never to give up for Frances, whose life would be better without him.
After the death of the great musician, his diary gained immense popularity, the quotes of which became just as legendary. The suicide notes of people testify to the loss of a loved one, friend, idol. Reading them, you understand that the person is no more, only lines remain.
Mikhail Zadornov
Most recently, the outstanding writer and satirist Mikhail Zadornov passed away, he left us at the age of 69. He was a member of the Writers' Union of Russia, published more than a dozen books. He was the author and host of many TV shows, in particular, such as "Full House" and "Laughing Panorama".
A year ago, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor. He published information on the social network VKontakte that for this reason the concerts are cancelled. After a course of chemotherapy in a Berlin clinic, Zadornov underwent rehabilitation in the B altic states. The disease was not defeated. They made the decision to stop the painful treatment.
On November 10, 2017, the great satirist Mikhail Zadorny passed away. He said that all methods of treatment have already been tried, nothing helps. The last will was the desire to go to Jurmala and live there in peace, surrounded by loved ones.
Zadorny's suicide note is more likely not a message, but a demand, inin which he laid out three wishes:
- Save the library to them. Nikolai Zadorny in Riga, do not stop funding it.
- The second wish was the will to be buried in my father's grave.
- Transport the body by land transport.
Legendary satirist Mikhail Zadornov will remain forever in our hearts.
About the dying message of V. Mayakovsky
The poet's death remains a mystery to this day, whether he left this world himself or was helped to do so. Let's talk about the contents of the poet's suicide note, which dates back to April 12, 1930. He wrote the letter two days before his death. At first, doubts arose whether this letter was his, as it was written in pencil, with virtually no punctuation marks. After establishing that it is genuine.
So, what was written in Mayakovsky's suicide note? The great poet asked not to blame anyone for his death and not to speak badly of him after his death, they say, the dead do not like it. He asked for forgiveness from relatives and friends, warning that this was not a way out, and this should not be done, but not in his case. He also ordered in a letter to give his creations to the Brik family. And he also said about 2,000 rubles in his desk to pay taxes, he ordered to get the rest from Giza.
This letter allows us to conclude that Mayakovsky was a responsible person. It would seem that he is passing away, after death it is all the same, but he took care of his relatives.
This message caused a lot of controversy. Why did he mention Veronika Polonskaya there in onenext to loved ones, thus framed a married woman? But there was an explanation for this, the poet wanted to secure her financially, and everyone already knew about their connection.
Another interesting fact. He writes, they say, Lilya Brik, love me. But everyone knows that there was no love for a long time, and indeed, she never loved the poet. Yet he leaves his legacy in her hands, because she, like no one else, understood his work, was very grasping and had huge connections.
The poet wanted his creations to survive and live. That is why he entrusted them to the Briks. And there is a phrase that confirms this, they say, let's forget all the strife and resentment, and love me after I'm gone.
The letter also contained a quatrain, the first lines of which should logically be addressed to Lilya Brik. He wrote that the event had exhausted itself, the love boat was smashed against everyday life. I decided to leave, so there is no place for mutual insults and reproaches. But it's still not about her. Lilya lived in excellent conditions, she rowed everything herself. And in difficult moments of the poet's life, when he needed support, she left him. The Brick family went to London to live with Lily's mother.
When the ill-fated shot rang out, Lily and her family were not around. But they managed to arrive by April 16 at the time of the funeral. After that, Lily burned all the letters that he kept. Destroyed great property, evidence of the poet's life, biographical pages.
She also confiscated the diary, published some fragments, and then completely banned her diaries.
If "love boat" does not refer to the spouse, then what did he meanpoet? Maybe this is connected with the main version of suicide? After all, so many troubles fell on him overnight, maybe he just couldn’t stand it, which led to a nervous breakdown and such an outcome.
Could failure bring a great poet to death? Rather, no, he was attacked throughout his life, and the most severe. And not only from literary critics, but also from friends. And the authorities did not like his poetic thinking and style. He learned to fight back in disputes, knew how to defend himself. In his farewell letter, he also addresses Yermilov, thereby expressing his desire to continue discursive strife. Therefore, failures could not bring to such a critical state. Moreover, new works were written.
Perhaps this is about unrequited love. In his life there was also a third woman, Tatyana Yakovleva, in whose marriage the poet did not want to believe. Fate separated them. She went to France and stayed there. The state of the country did not allow to return. She relied on the almighty Mayakovsky, but he himself could not bring the lady of his heart to the most modest penates, especially when such changes were taking place in the country: prices rose, Stalin canceled the NEP, the shelves in the shops were empty, and she got used to a different life, yes and what will he do in the USSR?
Mayakovsky was afraid of a stray bullet, to be left alone. Nora lived with her theater, Lily did not love him at all, but, alas, it did not work out with Tatyana. Love boat crashed into life…
On April 14 early in the morning I sent a telegram to France, Tatyana Yakovleva, saying that the poet Vladimir Mayakovsky shot himself in Moscow today.
