Strange, but for some reason the question "What to do?" arises after the lady has done stupid things. Cheating is multi-faceted, there can be many reasons for this, and it can be difficult to understand the situation.
Stagnation in bed - what leads to
Yes, a harmonious sex life is not the main thing, but still it is one of the components of a successful marriage. Having exhausted their potential and knowledge in this area in two or three years, spouses usually have sexual contact less and less, and nothing new, exciting, causing a surge of emotions happens. You seem to know each other by heart, all the habits, habits and manners in bed. Why does it happen like this - a husband cheats on his wife, a wife cheats on her husband? What to do in such situations? People go for treason to experience new emotions from another person who is able to give them. It's guaranteed. But the fact is that, having analyzed their intimate life a little, both partners can do the same for each other without outside help. Or, if morals allow, then with her too (now we are talking about inanimateobjects, and about people, what the hell is not joking. But the main thing is that everything is within the law).
It is only important not to miss the moment when you began to move away from each other, but still it did not go so far that the process became irreversible.
Analysis and troubleshooting
They say you shouldn't compare your spouse with anyone. What is - and it's good. This is hardly true. It is necessary to carry out such an analysis for yourself (in your head, and not run, rather, try how that pretty neighbor behaves in bed; and then the negligent cuckold will ask the same neighbor for advice on what to do if the wife cheated on her husband). It is necessary to analyze the behavior of the spouse in relation to himself, to household duties, to earning money to ensure cohabitation. You see each other every day, you know all the habits, demeanor. So take advantage of this, show cunning, reason and change not your husband, but the situation that drives your marriage back to the registry office. "He used to love me more." But then he was hit in the head by hormones that forced him to do something sort of in order to win your favor. Now both you and he know that you are together, and it seems that you will not get anywhere from each other. In this case, why win something that has already been yours for a long time? How wrong are those who think so, both men and women!
Looking for something new in the old
You can't let yourself get used to each other. The search for new sensations is the first thing that pushes to change. And if the second half is always able to surprise, then why look for someone on the side? By the way, this applies to bothspouses. If only the husband or only the wife will try to do some things, and there will be no return from the second half, the desire to surprise, care, please fades and disappears forever, turning the once happy newlyweds into an average couple weary of life.
We need to learn together
A wise woman will be able to make her husband rush home from work more often, surround his wife with care, be a strong support. You will say, “Why should I teach him anything? I'm not his mother. The whole truth is that the first marriage is something new for both, and two people also need to learn how to live together so that both feel good. This is the easiest way to get away from problems - so I took it and cheat on my husband. “What to do, because it’s easier for me, the desire to live appeared, I felt loved again.” But trying to establish an existing family mechanism is a more difficult task. You can find yourself another who seems to be a better option than the already existing spouse, but that's bad luck, over time he becomes the same as the first husband was. “They are all the same” - this is the conclusion a woman makes for herself. The idea that by her behavior she provokes men to the same type of actions does not arise.
The problem of remaining faithful, or What is the first thing that pushes for treason
Loy alty is not something incomprehensible that is imposed by social canons. Loy alty is the awareness that the person who is next to you may be hurt by your actions, as well as the unwillingness to cause such to your own.half. However, cheating is not uncommon. Why is this happening?
The first factor that leads to adultery is the lack of a full-fledged intimate life in marriage. And if this is the only reason for what is happening, then, most likely, either the husband has always been “not very” in this regard, or youthful passions have subsided, or a lot of time has passed since the trip to the registry office, and therefore people became uninteresting together.
The bed did not suit initially
A woman, before getting married, could have experienced sexual relations. But at the same time, she chose a person who does not have the ability to satisfy her. Let's omit the reasons why this happened, the fact remains: she married him. In this case, there were good reasons that prompted the creation of a married couple. Perhaps it is in such a situation that a woman asks the question: “I am cheating on my husband, what should I do next?” First, she needs to remember why, after all, she created a cell of society with this man.
If it was a marriage of convenience
A woman in such a situation often confesses to her friends: “I regularly cheat on my husband. What to do? First of all, she needs to analyze her current situation. Is the calculation still valid? Will your husband be upset when he finds out that his wife is cheating on him? But if you see a better prospect with another man, and marriage weighs on both of you, then feel free to rush for a new person. It is likely that such an outcome will suit the two partners, but the relationship should be broken off carefully: without scandals, tantrums, mutual insults. Act like adults, discuss your relationship, try to figure out what led to this outcome, and come to a common conclusion together.
Love marriage and adultery
If the marriage was for love, which grew into something more, then betrayal was rather a passing fad. And this also happens quite often. So, the woman cheated on her beloved husband. What to do in this case? Don't tell your spouse what happened. It is better to stop all sorts of adventures on the side, and also analyze why this happened. If there is dissatisfaction with any moments in everyday life, in intonations, in general, do things that will push your husband to change the situation. If the marriage is really built on mutual love, your attempts to improve the shaken well-being in the house by a loving husband will be noticed. Why should a woman do it? Most likely, conscience will interfere with sleep, and a sense of guilt for a perfect act should push you to improve relations in marriage. The husband will not know why the wife suddenly started a romantic dinner. To him, this will all seem like a nice gesture, and also, probably, will push for retaliatory actions.
Capitalize on stupidity
It is also possible that the couple did not have sexual contact before the painting in the registry office. Now it's hard to believe, but nevertheless, this was previously practiced - a man took care of the "purity" of his future wife. If in this situation a woman can confess: “I cheated on my husband”, what should I do in this case? to thinkwhether a momentary sexual adventure with another man is worth a relationship with a spouse, and also learn something new from the experience gained. You just have to be careful, because the spouse may ask where the wife, besides him, who has not known a single man, knows this “something”. Pre-select a list of possible sources on the Web or from women's magazines.
The problem is not only in intimate relationships
If a man does not tire a woman not only as a partner, but also as a companion in life in general (in terms of financial security, household help, caring for children, that is, a person is not capable of anything, according to his wife), it is no wonder that at the first opportunity that has turned up, she will find another. And at the same time, she will openly admit to the same friends: "I'm cheating on my husband." What to do in this case? Few modern women or girls have the patience to remake a neglected case of a spouse for themselves, so the answer is obvious.
If life with this person depresses, turns into a grumpy aunt, and all your efforts to somehow improve relations end in a fiasco, run away from this person. Marriage should bring harmony into the lives of both people and make it, if not better, then at least no worse.
Cheating with an ex
There is a situation when you suddenly meet a long-forgotten student love. And, as luck would have it, he only got better when a cold lingers in bed at home. As a result, she cheated on her husband with her ex. What to do? Probably, to hope that the former is also married, and for him what happenedwill remain an adventure and nothing more. But this is the case if the woman is quite satisfied with her marriage. If both of them really have awakened bright feelings, then it’s worth considering whether you are ready to sink headlong into a new “old relationship”. Remember why you broke up, determine if time could fix this reason, and also decide if you are ready to hurt your spouse.
It's good if the fact (or already the facts) of steps "to the left" did not become public. But if a woman says: “I cheated on my husband with a neighbor,” what should I do? After all, some curious grandmother living nearby could notice your entrance to the wrong apartment, and also note the time of departure in order to savor these details in the morning on a bench with her friends. If it really happened that a neighbor acts as your new lover, you first need to find out what kind of person he is, whether he knows how to keep secrets. In addition, you need to think about a safe meeting place. But an analysis of what happened, on the subject of how all this will affect relations with her husband, definitely does not hurt.
Cheated on her husband, mother-in-law found out
What to do in this case? First of all, don't panic. If the mother-in-law only heard about what happened somewhere and probably doesn’t know any details, and with these arguments she goes on the attack, then you shouldn’t deny everything. Just correct her story. You did not leave the hotel, but from a cafe nearby. They were not with a young man, but with their old acquaintance, whom they were glad to see. And in general, he was at this meetingtogether with his wife. So, without harsh notes, simply, calmly and accessible, you must stand your ground. Do not immediately admit: "I'm cheating on my husband." What to do? Take a lesson and benefit from what is happening. New relationships have increased the level of adrenaline and the hormone of happiness, do you want to sing and laugh, enjoy life? Do so. And at the same time, remember about the others and try to make their lives easier too. The less people grumble, the less trouble you will have.
But if you are caught in bed with another man, then this situation may seem hopeless. There are few options here. Most likely, you will have to collect things. But if you are ready to fight for your family after everything that happened and want to save the marriage, start denying everything. Yes, this will ruin your relationship with your mother-in-law even more, but you will have a chance. You need to understand something else: your husband's mother will not calm down. Perhaps you yourself would behave in the same way if you had a son. It can even go as far as surveillance. But you must end the relationship on the side if you want to save your marriage.
When it's not just about you
Inaccuracy in such cases can have much more serious consequences. Cheated on her husband and got pregnant - what to do in such a situation?
There are several solutions in this regard. From the most radical - abortion, to hiding the fact of paternity from her husband and the birth of a new little man. You can also go to your lover if you and your husband do not have joint children, and if this man is ready to accept you.
In anyIn the event that the news about the adventures of the spouse did not reach her husband, she herself decides what to do - get a divorce or hide what is happening. It is not worth talking about the moral side of the issue, because men are no less likely to be caught cheating than women. “I cheated on my husband? What to do? Did the husband leave after learning about this fact? The experience of many couples shows that this happens often. But sometimes, if you make an effort, you can return everything.
Why cheating causes discomfort
If you are cheating on your spouse and don't know what to do, then you are not sure about something. Answer the following questions for yourself:
- Which event (or set of events) contributed to the betrayal?
- Whose fault is this situation?
- How many problems does cheating solve?
- How much trouble does she add?
There is no single solution to this situation. In order not to worry about the stupid things done, the best solution is not to do them. And then you don’t have to worry and admit to yourself the terrible thing: “I cheated on my husband. What to do?”
