Sexual human behavior is formed as a complex set of mental, social and physiological processes. Often, the development of sexual desire is strongly influenced by the relationships that have developed in the family, as well as the views of the close environment on sexuality. The nature of sexual perception may vary depending on age, gender, personal preferences and marital status.
Concept
Sexual human behavior is a set of behavioral reactions that are aimed at finding a partner to interact with him at the level of sex. That is, it is a person's internal readiness for such interaction.
It is important to understand that sexuality is determined by a person's inner desire to have an intimate relationship, and not by bright makeup, a practiced gait and defiant outfits and gestures. Only the state of inner confidence, passion and fire can be expressed in sexualbehavior.
Purposes and functions
Initially, it was arranged so that the search for a partner was carried out exclusively for reproduction, that is, procreation. Accordingly, sex was aimed at fulfilling its reproductive function. After birth control became possible, sex began to be seen more as a pleasure, relaxation and communication between people of the opposite sex.
Types of sexual behaviors
Zbigniew Lev-Starovich singled out several main types of interaction in sex and love that exist in world love:
- Platonic type. It is characterized by manifestations of feelings, but does not apply to bodily contacts. This pattern exists in both the Christian faith and Buddhism.
- Sensual model. It is characterized by the presence of sexual desire when a feeling of love arises. Moreover, sex is an integral part and manifestation of feelings for a person of the opposite sex.
- Psychophysical variety. Sex and love cannot be considered separately.
- An opposition model. Sex and love are considered as independent forms of relationships. That is, sex can exist without love, and love can exist without intimacy.
- Sex without love. Romantic relationships and manifestations of feelings are inappropriate in this model of relationships. The basis is solely the satisfaction of sexual needs.
Motives
The psychology of sexual behavior highlights sex as one of the basic human needs. Entering into an intimate relationship,people can achieve one or more of the following list:
- Satisfaction of physiological needs.
- Expressing your feelings.
- The desire to feel loved.
- Procreation.
- Getting sensual pleasure.
- Satisfaction of sexual curiosity.
- Fear of being alone, as well as establishing close relationships.
- Achieving material we alth (e.g. marriage of convenience).
- Fulfillment of duty. Usually we are talking about marital relations, but there is a category of men who are not able to refuse a woman.
- Giving in response to harassment.
- The desire to bind or subjugate a partner.
- Increasing self-esteem through the number of sexual victories.
Features
To perform the reproductive function, a woman needs to show her inner readiness for copulation to the chosen partner. According to the laws of evolution, the female always chooses the male, although often this happens quite unconsciously.
A woman must be attractive, he althy, have a pleasant smell and appropriate discharge in order to attract a man. Moreover, the partner should feel her inner readiness for sex. Sometimes it is enough for a woman to just be ready for intimacy and wait for the initiative from a man who will find ways to get a partner if he really wants it.
Nature is arranged in such a way that it is a woman who should choose for herselfpartner, since it is the female who is entrusted with the role of bearing and reproducing a new life. Every girl is interested in giving birth to a beautiful and he althy child. Therefore, females tend to choose the best representative from their suitors. And the task of a man is to show the woman he is interested in that he is the best among all.
Let's consider the features of sexual behavior on the example of nature. You can pay attention to the fact that the male is always larger and more attractive than the female. For example, the male peacock has a chic tail with bright colors, while the lion has thick, silky hair and has a stately gait.
In anticipation of the breeding season, males begin to actively do things that help get the attention of the female. Most often these are ritual dances and mating games. Males show off in front of females, fluffing their tails, they circle, and also fight other males if competition arises.
It is important to understand that evolution and nature are almost impossible to deceive. Therefore, human sexual behavior is often very similar to that of a male in the run-up to the breeding season. In the modern world, women began to "chase" men, which is considered an unnatural process in nature.
The main task of a woman is to direct all her strength to self-development, the search for talents, skills and inner work. Thus, a sufficient number of men will appear around her who will be interested in buildingrelationship with her. It is much easier for a woman to choose a worthy partner when there are many men interested in her.
It is important to remember that by wasting her energy and strength on waiting for the "handsome prince" or "chasing" the object she likes, a woman runs the risk of getting not the best companion for her life, but "got what's left."
Most girls tend to confuse the concept of true sexuality with imaginary, which is based on external paraphernalia. Such women devote a lot of time and money to outfits, beauty salons, neglecting their inner state, feelings and spirituality. Sometimes a well-played performance gives a girl such confidence in her sexuality that even the most chic and expensive dress in the world cannot give.
A happy girl who enjoys sex with a partner is always beautiful and sexy. Unlike an unhappy woman with bright makeup and a beautiful outfit, who knows many manual and oral ways to please a man, but does not get pleasure and satisfaction from this.
Attraction
The development of sexual behavior is innate, but over time it tends to become more complex.
Sexual and personal development of a person is most often characterized by the following areas of experience:
- Was the baby able to develop a sense of trust that his thirst and hunger will be satisfied and he will be in complete physical safety.
- Conclusions to be drawna child from relationships with people close to him (parents, brothers and sisters).
- Much depends on whether children learn to love and care for their bodies.
- The nature of education. It is important for parents to understand that a boy must be raised as a future man, and a girl as a real woman.
The above points are not of primary importance, but are fundamental in the development of the character and sexuality of any person.
Sexual norms
Most people are well aware that the following things are not considered normal:
- Your male friend wears lipstick.
- Girl satisfies herself with a vibrator and ignores men.
- Partners resort to whips, clamps, ropes in intimacy…
It is important to understand that the concept of the norm is completely different for everyone. A lot depends on the circumstances, place of residence, religion and cultural traditions. Therefore, there is no need to condemn your acquaintances for the fact that they live differently. The most dangerous state for a person is when he considers himself wrong, that is, he is sure that he has deviations in sexual behavior. Such an opinion about oneself can be formed due to the statements that a person has to hear in his address. For this reason, most people may have problems with their own sexuality.
Consider the points that indicate that a person has no problems in sexual behavior:
- A person canenjoy sex in a variety of ways. He has no obsession. For example, "left foot fetish" of his partner.
- He continues to actively communicate, develop, and realize himself in all spheres of life. A person does not close on the problem.
- He behaves absolutely adequately, and also in accordance with the framework of culture, religion and upbringing in the family where he grew up.
If all of the above points are met, then the person is all right, even if others think otherwise.
Deviations
Sexual deviations are not diseases, so a doctor's help may be needed only when a person experiences psychological discomfort from his features.
It is important to understand that the limits and characteristics of normal sexual behavior have not been established. Today, sexual deviations are considered to be anything that does not fit into the specific framework of the society in which you live.
Varieties of sexual deviations
- Transsexualism. Dissatisfaction with belonging to one's biological sex.
- Asexualism. Refusal of sexual relations.
- Homosexuality and lesbianism. Sexual attraction and feelings for same-sex people.
- Masochism. Desire to self-destruct. The desire to receive moral and physical pain from your partner.
- Sadism. An irresistible desire to cause moral and physical pain to your partner, while receiving pleasure.
- Pedophilia. Sexual attraction to children.
Extreme manifestations of sadism and pedophiliais criminally punishable, they are unacceptable in our society. In all other cases, it is generally accepted that a person has the right to do whatever he wants, without going beyond the law.
Reasons
The types of sexual behavior associated with deviations, as well as the nature of their occurrence, are not fully understood. It is believed that the following factors play a major role in the formation of sexual deviations:
- Heredity.
- Intoxication.
- Mental disorders.
- Problems of a psychosexual nature. Often provoked by sex education and the specifics of contact with peers.
- Hormonal abnormalities.
- Changes in brain function due to birth trauma.
What can lead to
Sexual behavior with disorders sometimes requires medical intervention. Most often it is necessary for people who lose control over their actions. Sexual experiences can acquire the character of a strong dependence on addictions. Over time, such people can feel their inferiority, failure, as well as the internal bifurcation of their experiences. Irresolvable conflicts between modes of sexual satisfaction can lead to disastrous consequences, such as neurotic disorders or suicide attempts.
It should be noted that most people with a variety of options for sexual development do not experience guilt and emotionalexperiences. Accordingly, they do not need medical attention.
