We have all experienced the fact that in the society of different people we feel and behave in completely different ways. Someone from the first words instills optimism and hope in us, a conversation with him brings self-confidence, pleases and warms. And someone, on the contrary, causes a desire to say goodbye as soon as possible and never see again. What is charm? Is it an innate gift or skill? Is it possible to learn how to charm people?
American psychologists believe that everything comes with practice.
But let's remember the radiant, but at the same time cold smiles of Americans. Being an optimist in public, hiding all your problems and worries does not mean attracting people. Charm is a magnet. With a person who has this quality, I want to communicate again and again. What is the secret? The main property in which personal charm lies is the presence of empathy. This is the ability to "feel into" the position of the interlocutor. The ability to sincerely empathize with him and make him understand this. Charm is rather innateability. After all, you can’t learn to empathize. How impossible it is to learn to be kind. You can, of course, study various techniques for manipulating people, controlling them and your own behavior, facial expressions, gestures. But a deep feeling of closeness with someone cannot be cultivated either in oneself or in others. What attracts us to charming people? First of all, they are located towards us. It feels, feels "skin".
This cannot be played, because internal prudence is often perceived at a subconscious level. Therefore, charm is first of all sincerity. But not intrusive, not aggressive. A person who has the gift to charm others knows how to listen. And he must also subtly feel all the nuances and shades of the interlocutor's well-being and deeply understand the situation.
From charming people vibes of warmth and goodwill emanate. That is, such a person cannot be arrogant or arrogant. He usually has an adequate self-esteem. He is attentive, but not intrusive. Women's charm is completely independent of the formal "correct" beauty. All of us have met girls and young people more than once who did not have an ideal appearance or athletic figures. But their inherent warmth makes them much more attractive than the cold beauty of haughty ladies or the polished elegance of gentlemen.
Thus, charm is a quality of personality, character.
This is the ability to win people over without puttingefforts. Of course, this quality is highly valued in any team. Such a person, as a rule, has no enemies. Simply because with his warmth and goodwill he disarms them. This quality is especially important in all professions related to communication. A charming salesperson or manager-consultant will be able to win the sympathy of the client much faster and more naturally and persuade him to buy. In hospitals and clinics, doctors and nurses who possess this quality are treated with particular trepidation by patients. A charming teacher or teacher is the favorite of all his pupils. And although you cannot learn this property, you can try to develop in yourself such qualities as empathy, the ability to empathize and sympathize. Because no matter where we work, no matter what we do, positive communication with people will always only benefit us.
