What makes a person happy and allows you to live in harmony with yourself? Probably everyone will answer this question in their own way. After all, everyone has their own dreams and aspirations, but absolutely everyone can confirm that love is one of the fundamental pillars of our life. We are social beings and therefore strive to gain support and understanding, love and devotion. And many believe that life is created so that we can help and satisfy the requirements of loved ones. In fact, we are all unique and individual. A person is created for a happy life, in which, first of all, he must value himself! Surely every girl draws the perfect picture in her dreams and repeats like a spell: “I want to love and be loved”!
Loneliness: fact or far-fetched stereotype
Many ladies tend to dramatize life circumstances and see everything in dark colors. Comparing themselves with other women, they begin to "gain" complexes andacquire fears. After all, someone always seems happier and more attractive. And is it really so? You cannot judge a person without knowing him. The girl begins to make attempts to get closer to the opposite sex and sometimes she can really fail. But that doesn't mean she's doomed.
The problem is precisely in relation to the situation - a fanatical desire for a goal and rejection of defeat lead to deep depression. Do not get hung up, you must first understand yourself. What are you willing to do to make your life "flow" in a different direction? You need to start changing your habitual attitude towards yourself. How will it help? The answer is obvious - the phrase "I want to love and be loved" will no longer be an unattainable goal for you!
Love yourself
Our personality consists of thousands of fragments that determine our life, attitude towards ourselves and others. And if a woman was once told that she is unworthy of love, this stereotype will be reflected in her entire destiny. Psychologists say that love is a psycho-emotional reflection of the integrity of the personality itself. That is, all feelings are already within us. And when we meet a worthy person, we share with him our emotions that we initially felt for ourselves. And here is the answer - if you have never loved yourself, can you give this feeling to another? Of course not! A person who is deeply insecure and “offended” cannot attract another. After all, the man you like is also in search of a man whom he can trust. But is the lady who does not admireherself, not appreciating her qualities, can captivate him? You need to learn how to express your emotions and love that fragile and resentful person who lives inside you. Allow yourself to be free and open to the new and unknown. Know your soul, and then the phrase “I want love and be loved” will not turn into an obsession, but will be embodied in a new happy life.
Internal restrictions
Very often girls themselves program future failures. They believe that they are unworthy of such a wonderful feeling as love, devotion. Ladies begin to feel like victims of circumstances and evil fate. Creating a close relationship, each time they ask themselves the question of whether they are worthy of their chosen one? Will they succeed, or will they fail again?
Men who feel their attitude towards themselves are drawn to such women, they begin to behave with them exactly as with a victim, they allow themselves cruel acts and betrayals. After all, she deserves it if she herself accepted such a situation. And when you repeat to yourself: “I want to be loved,” you yourself do not believe in it. Change your attitude to life, stop feeling sorry for the "girl" inside you. Be proud that you are unique and unrepeatable. And only such behavior will make you attractive to the opposite sex.
Fear of pain and new disappointment
Everyone has setbacks and disappointments in life, but someone is able to "get up" and move on, and someone feeds their pain daily. There is a whole drama in life, the girl constantlyreplays the situation in which she was deceived. In the end, she begins to blame herself for everything! He is looking for the reasons for the breakup, begins to fear experiencing a new tragedy in his personal life. This state of affairs leads to the fact that the lady is afraid to let a new person into her heart.
She thinks she is protecting herself from pain. Doubts overcome and subjugate the will, a woman can start dating a guy, but at the first opportunity she runs away and hides in her “shell”. You tell yourself: “I want my beloved to be there,” but you yourself are looking for a reason to accuse him of lying or treason. In such a situation, it is necessary to forgive the person who offended you and yourself. Do not hold anger and rage. The world is not perfect, just like the people around you. So, maybe stop leaving the house? Allow yourself to move on, start communicating more and expressing your feelings openly.
No need to rush
Many girls are simply obsessed with the fear of being alone. They are afraid not to have time to find their only one and begin to see him in any member of the opposite sex. Such an obsessive state pushes the manifestation of their emotions in an aggressive form. Her slogan is the expression "I want to love and be loved here and right now." A woman seeks to get a man in any way. It seems to her that if he leaves, she will remain forever alone.
This state of affairs leads to total control of the chosen one. Constant talk about relationships, quarrels for any reason. Of course, such behavior repels men, they are notwant to obey and don't want to be "conquered". Cavaliers feel that you have already decided everything for him, and this is unacceptable. Everyone should have a choice. Naturally, such a relationship will lead to a break. No matter how trite it sounds, but it is necessary to completely let go of the situation, to some extent even switch to other worries. Show yourself as an independent and self-reliant person. It is the women who are a little shy of relationships that are very attractive to men.
Are you ready for love
Sometimes a situation arises that a girl is very eager for a relationship, dreams of her chosen one, and when it comes to real romantic meetings, she understands that she is not ready yet. Analyze the situation, whether you can change your life, let another person into it. Listen to yourself how you feel and whether you can compromise for the sake of your loved one. Relationships are a complex interaction between two people, and harmony and understanding can only be achieved through daily and painstaking work. If you do not want to get rid of internal complexes and fears, how will you build an ideal relationship in which you will find happiness? So decide for yourself whether the magic phrase “I want to love and be loved” will become the essential truth of life or will remain in my dreams.
Striving for love and new feelings is so natural and beautiful. Love brings us feelings of happiness and security, gives us harmony with the world around us and pushes us to wonderful deeds. So why not help yourself and trycast aside fears and unnecessary fears? It is known that inaction leads to nothing. Make your dream come true - and then you will not only have to dream and repeat in your mind: “I want to be desired and loved”, you will become like this in reality!
