The world is multidimensional. The human personality is also not unambiguous and not one-sided. But the fact that we have various motives, thoughts, motives, desires - this is not the whole complexity. It is not uncommon for a person to experience opposite feelings at the same time. Ambivalent - this word just means "dual", "bidirectional". How can this be understood and explained?
Different stimuli and needs constantly struggle within us. For example, the desire to relax and play on the computer may conflict with the girl's request to go to the cinema with her. An ambivalent motive is one about which we do not have a single feeling. Often, in relation to loved ones and loved ones, we experience the whole gamut of experiences. For example, many of us are familiar with the state of "both love and hate." Why is this happening? Because in us selfish feelings and altruism compete, the desire to be an independent person and the need for intimacy.
Ambivalent doesn't mean"bad" or "doubtful" is just a word for the complexity and bidirectionality of the experience. It is not uncommon to hear or read stories in which this particular moment greatly puzzles a person. First of all, the one who experiences such feelings. For example, if a seriously ill loved one dies, for many this is associated not only with the bitterness of loss and loneliness, but also with a kind of … relief. And this is normal, in no case should you reproach yourself for such experiences. After all, in each of us there is an instinct for self-preservation. If grief completely subjugated our lives, we would have no strength left to maintain existence. The risk of severe mental illness would be high.
Ambivalent is something both "plus" and "minus", attraction and repulsion. In life, such feelings and attitudes often occur. True self-knowledge also lies in being able to recognize these two-way signals, motives, and experiences in oneself. After all, it is also impossible to be in a state of perpetual fluctuations. Many vital steps require unequivocal decisions from us. And this means that one feeling or motive must obey another. For example, when getting married, girls often - even despite being insanely in love with their future life partner - experience mixed,
contradictory experiences. Sometimes it even begins to seem to them that they made a mistake in choosing a groom. But the matter is somewhat different: ambivalentattitude towards marriage is just normal. After all, it shows that a person is mature and is aware that ahead is not only pleasure and joy, but also dedication, work, subordination of one’s interests to a spouse and family.
A certain duality is inherent in most people. The usual doubts that we experience before difficult and important steps are also a struggle of motives and opposing feelings. But sometimes throwing and difficulties with prioritization become too bright and noticeable. Such a person is said to be an "ambivalent personality". It is far from always that we are talking about mental deviations, perhaps it is only a matter of character accentuation. That is, compared to the "average", such a person often experiences opposite feelings, enters into intricate relationships, cannot decide on his position in relation to someone or something.
