In the modern world, mature women look simply incredibly attractive. This is facilitated by the cult of a he althy lifestyle, as well as achievements in cosmetology and plastic surgery. Every woman dreams of prolonging her youth, therefore she actively uses absolutely all available methods for this. And this is bearing fruit. Look around, how many beautiful and well-groomed mature women are on the street, tired of loneliness and ready to plunge headlong into love. Who can give them this firework of emotions? Of course, young men. Relations between an adult woman and a young guy began to meet more and more often. Do they have a future? And is it worth it to start an affair with a guy if you are already over forty?
Unequal relationship
Traditionally, women had access to relationships with men older than themselves. Until now, Russian society is considered patriarchal and looks at the novels of adult women with young guys extremely negatively. But since this phenomenon takes place, it is impossible to closeeyes on him. We will try to consider it from all sides and find out the prospect of such a relationship.
First of all, we need to decide what age difference can be considered suitable for the definition of "unequal marriage" or "unequal relationship". Psychologists believe that if a lady is three or four years older than her boyfriend, then this is not an obstacle to mutual understanding and a successful marriage. But when a young guy and an adult woman have an age difference of five to fifteen years in favor of the latter, then we can safely talk about an unequal marriage.
In a world where a woman is often successful and financially secure, love affairs between partners of different ages are very common. They do not always develop into a serious relationship filled with sincere feelings and emotions. Usually lovers break up after a couple of months, when the passion fades.
Also in the article we will not discuss situations when a guy is a gigolo and exists at the expense of his mature girlfriend, providing him with a certain standard of living. Such unions can last quite a long time, but no one can call it a relationship. Therefore, in the following sections, we will talk about true love between a young man and an older woman.
Relationship with a young lover in the eyes of society
Most often, ladies are embarrassed to admit their love and advertise the relationship in public. They are afraid of condemnation and censure, because evil tongues instantly hang unflattering labels on a couple and begin to predict their future inblack paints. The union, in which it is difficult to determine how much a woman looks like, is especially strongly subjected to slander. After all, ladies who decide on such a relationship, as a rule, look five years younger than their years, dress well and take care of their he alth. They already cause a lot of gossip, and an affair with a young guy will only add fuel to the fire.
It is interesting that an independent and independent woman over the age of forty is always perfectly visible when she falls in love with a man younger than her. It is impossible to hide it: her burning eyes, elastic gait, new hairstyle and outfits betray her. A woman immediately forgets about her age and just glows from the inside. What are the advantages of such a relationship for a lady?
Pros of an alliance with a younger man
Many people say that women's age is short. After all, girls devote most of their lives to the family and try to realize themselves in their careers. And only by the age of forty can they calmly sigh and look back, evaluating the results of their labors. What is behind most women by this age? Usually one or two children, a divorce or an unhappy marriage, and an established career. It seems that the time has come to live for yourself and enjoy all that you have managed to earn over the years. It was then that a young guy bursts into the life of a lady. And the woman just loses her head, returning to her reckless youth.
From a young lover, a lady receives that same portion of romance, which is no longer possible to take from her peers. Young guys are usually very reverent and affectionate towards their girlfriend,surrounding her with care and love. And for a woman, this is a kind of hormonal therapy, which gives her a charge of vivacity and youth every morning.
Do not forget about the sexual component of such a union. It is known that the peak of female sexuality falls on the period after thirty-five years, and male - at twenty-five years. Therefore, a couple of "young guy and adult woman" are almost always perfect for each other in bed.
It can be said that a lady in love gets a lot of advantages from a relationship with her partner. But what attracts him so much in a mature girlfriend?
Older men and ladies
Society assumes that boys like young girls and older women are not attractive. But in reality, things are a little different. According to surveys of sociologists, most young men have the most pleasant erotic memories associated with girlfriends who were several years older than them.
And this is not surprising, because mature women are very sexy and this is what attracts younger lovers. They look great, know their strengths and weaknesses, have rich sexual experience and are quite liberated. Many young guys are eager to learn something from their partner, they like to learn everything new and unusual.
We should not exclude the fact that some guys subconsciously look for the image of their mother in the woman they love. They need love, care and understanding, which they did not receive in childhood. But a mature friend infully able to give her lover all the attention he needs.
Besides, in a relationship with a young guy, a woman is not demanding. She does not need flowers, long courtship and trips to a restaurant. Relationships look simple and understandable, it is to such unions that men of any age always gravitate.
Risks of unequal relationships
A young guy and an adult woman can be a very beautiful and harmonious couple, but they cannot avoid problems and difficulties in this union. Naturally, almost the entire share of the risk is taken by the one who is older. After all, it is often the lady who decides whether or not to be in such a relationship. What pitfalls await such an alliance?
First of all, a woman who is capable of a love affair with a man younger than herself must have remarkable courage, self-confidence and wisdom. After all, you will have to constantly compete with younger ladies and at the same time feel more attractive. Sooner or later, this psychological stress can cause devastation, which will certainly lead to a cooling of the relationship in a couple. After all, a woman wants to relax, and not constantly look like an ideal.
Many ladies make a big mistake when trying to seal a love union with a stamp in the passport and the birth of a child. All this is done in order to keep a young man near him, but in the end, in most cases, leads to a loss of understanding and broken hearts.
Do not forget that in an unequal relationship, a woman must be ready to let go of her partner before he startsmove away from her. Of course, history knows examples when love held people together, regardless of age. But more often than not, the passion fades and the relationship ends. If a woman is not ready for this, then she can get a serious psychological trauma, which will be very difficult to survive.
Affair with a young guy: how to start a relationship
Many women notice interest in their person from men younger than them, but they cannot decide on an affair. At the same time, friendships often develop between two people, which you just want to translate into something more serious. Friendship or love? How do you make a romance work? Let's try to give some recommendations:
- be open to opportunities and mentally tune in to love relationships;
- be honest and frank, this is what attracts young men to more mature partners;
- get ready to discover a whole new world that is part of your man, and show him all the charms of yours;
- take care of your appearance, because it raises self-confidence, self-esteem and mood;
- don't try to emphasize your experience, knowledge and age from the very beginning.
Become an extraordinary discovery for your date, and then the romance will begin without any effort or awkwardness on both sides.
What to expect from an affair with a young guy?
Total. Usually such relationships develop very rapidly and are quite bright for both partners. They are completely immersed in each other's world, and this is accompanied by incredible discoveries that provide an invaluable life experience.
Psychologists say that a woman in union with a younger lover constantly exposes herself to self-torture. She doubts herself, thinks about being used, and worries about the impossibility of giving her beloved a child. But in parallel, a woman experiences a huge psychological and emotional upsurge, fueled by sexual energy from her young partner. This has a positive effect on the general well-being and he alth of the lady.
But do not forget that such novels are most often fleeting and should be treated as a pleasant and exciting adventure. Otherwise, the woman risks "losing face" and being left with a broken heart.
Characteristics of women entering into a relationship with a man younger than themselves
Of course, all ages are submissive to love, and unexpected love can flood over any lady. But still, psychologists clearly distinguish several female types that are able to have an affair with a young lover:
- Consumers. These ladies are very self-confident, they are well off financially and know what they want to get out of life. They are physically attracted to a young body and do not consider this fact to be something shameful. Such women often change boyfriends who are younger than them.
- Tired. This category of the fair sex worked a lot in life and by a certain age began to be burdened by their freedom. Now ladies aim to get it allwhat they were missing before. And for the role of a partner they choose a young man who can compensate for their lack of love and tenderness.
- Complexed. Such women have never been confident in themselves, and the attention of a young man flatters them very much. They themselves cannot decide to enter into a love relationship with a man younger than themselves, but they are happy to obey if they are chosen to be a friend.
I would like to note that the last option from the point of view of psychology is the most difficult. After all, women are experiencing an inevitable breakup extremely hard, falling into depression with a suicidal bias.
An adult woman and a young guy: the psychology of relationships
Having decided on an unequal union, you need to remember the difference in the psychology of a man and a woman. This plays a decisive role in unequal relationships. Even when the real age of a man and a woman is the same, psychologically they are at different stages of development.
Girls grow up earlier than young people, they try to be guided by reason and feelings in their actions. They feel the world more subtly and strive for higher relationships. Guys, on the contrary, up to twenty-seven or thirty years old, build most of their relationships, guided by instincts. They are not ready to make decisions and take responsibility for anyone.
Therefore, when a woman is older, in a relationship with a young lover, she always takes the role of "mommy", ready to advise, help and support. She has to close her eyes to many things, to bewise and restrain your emotions. Typically, such alliances are built according to two scenarios:
- "Mommy" and "son". A woman initially takes a leading role in a couple, she makes all decisions and openly emphasizes this. Initially, this suits the young lover, but over time he gains the necessary experience and begins to be burdened by the control of his girlfriend.
- "Wise adviser". If a woman is smart enough, then she will guide her partner very carefully and help him grow psychologically. In this union, he is quite comfortable, because each of the couple will fulfill their gender roles.
In general, we can say that in most cases, a love relationship with a young man is based on a woman. She is the host and determines how bright this novel will be.
Relationship perspective
It is natural that it is difficult to decide on an affair with a young man even the most daring and beautiful mature lady. Is it worth it to have an affair with a young guy? How can it end? This is difficult to judge. After all, each case is individual and may not fall under the established stereotypes. But still there are statistics that are hard to argue with. Therefore, it is on it that we will rely in this section of the article.
Psychologists say that if the age difference between partners does not exceed seven years, then the relationship may well be successful and develop into a family. This is especially true when a lady meets her lover at the age of thirty-five. At this time the womanshe is still able to give birth to her chosen one of a child, and outwardly she can give odds to any young girls.
But when an affair starts between a lady of about fifty and a young man no older than twenty or twenty-five years old, then the statistics are inexorable - a love affair will be bright and short. You should not count on a long-term relationship, if your chosen one, of course, is not a gigolo, ready to continue the romance for the sake of monetary gain.
Reasons for breaking up unequal relations
Experts say that romances of mature women and young men rarely end in marriage, but can last for years. What usually causes this relationship to end?
Paradoxical as it may seem, but a union that lasts for several years and looks quite strong and successful can collapse due to any problem or discomfort that has arisen. This is the peculiarity of relationships of different ages - they instantly fall apart when the youngest of the partners becomes uncomfortable being together for any reason.
Psychologists say that unequal relationships lasting several years can easily destroy the age of the partner, which is becoming more and more noticeable. Passion is dulled, and the man begins to notice that his lady of the heart has wrinkles, sagging skin and other age-related changes. In turn, the woman becomes more and more obsessive, feeling that she is losing the attention of her lover. She constantly controls him, is jealous of her friends and arranges surveillance. This eventually leads to a breakup.
Also often the causeparting becomes a woman's desire to rejuvenate with the help of clothes. She begins to choose outfits for herself that would rather fit a young girl, and wears them with pleasure. A man becomes embarrassed for his beloved, he tries to minimize joint exits somewhere. Over time, a cooling is planned in the pair, and the union breaks up.
Some helpful tips for women
If between friendship or love with a young man you definitely make a choice in favor of passion, feelings and emotions, then our advice will help you make the relationship long and more harmonious.
- Don't buy love and respect with expensive gifts. In one case, you will get a gigolo, and in the other, you can seriously offend a man who is sincere towards you.
- Treat your partner as an equal. There is no need to put pressure on him from the height of past years and constantly convince him that he is right. Not all men are looking for a "mommy" in a mature lady.
- Don't get jealous of young rivals. This humiliates your dignity and destroys the harmony in the couple.
- Get ready to constantly compete with other women. You will always have to look young, fit and sexy. Otherwise, the novel is doomed to transience.
Conclusion
No one can predict how your love relationship will unfold. Therefore, if fate has given you a chance to feel young and loved, take advantage of it. After alla woman of any age is worthy of admiration and adoration.
