Many have heard of child abuse. But in some babies, the character changes for the better over time, while in others, bad habits and bad qualities worsen with age. What does it depend on? From proper upbringing and from what example adults will set for the child.
Overprotection
Many new parents are overprotective of their child. It is not surprising that a child does not have problems in life, and he does not understand the harsh realities of the world. So how can such children, who have not seen anything wrong in this life, develop childish cruelty? The fact is that growing up, a child who has not had a chance to make decisions on his own will rush to extremes. Such a person may be too modest or, conversely, too violent. A person who grew up in the full care of his mother involuntarily becomes an egoist. He never needed anything, and therefore he can do whatever his heart desires. Such recklessness begins to manifest itself in school years. The child fights with classmates, as he understands that his mother will not scold him. After all, the child will lie that he is notstarted a fight and was beaten.
The main reason for child abuse is ignorance of the world. A child who is always patronized and pitied can do a lot of stupid things. Therefore, reasonable mothers teach their children to be independent from a very young age. Then the child will not have problems with self-knowledge and he will not rush from one extreme to another.
Lack of love
What could be worse than overprotection? Lack of love. A child who is not loved by his parents is constantly in trouble. Why? Thus, the child wants to draw the attention of adults to his candidacy. The child fights, falls from trees, drags animals by their tails and ears, and is also rude to adults. Such antisocial behavior is quite normal for kids whose parents are engaged in building a career, and not raising a child. Many people think that their task is to provide the child with all the necessary material benefits, and educators and teachers should be engaged in the upbringing and formation of the personality. Parents should understand that attention is much more important for children than fashionable toys. A child who is loved will never bully a classmate and try to prove to everyone his coolness and authority. Only those children who lack something in the family do this. Therefore, they try to assert themselves at someone else's expense. Parents should pay attention to the inclinations of their child in time, otherwise the character will be formed, and it will be difficult to correct negative character traits.
Copied aggression
You havehappy family, but for some reason the child behaves inappropriately. Where to look for the cause of antisocial behavior? Films about violence strongly influence a child's behavior. Even if the baby’s mom and dad treat each other very well, but the child often watches action movies and crime stories with their parents, then soon it will be possible to expect the baby to copy the behaviors seen on the blue screen. Why? Children tend to imitate their favorite characters. And if a child has a favorite character, albeit a kind one, but who solves all issues with assault, then the child will solve his problems in a similar way. Moreover, I can teach bad habits not only adult films, but also children's cartoons. Take "Tom and Jerry" for example. This popular comedy is based on the fact that a mouse deliberately mocks a cat and Tom has to behave aggressively. And nowhere is it said that such behavior is wrong. The essence of the cartoon is as follows: if you are pissed off, you can use any punitive measures against your offender. Such an approach is fundamentally wrong. Therefore, you can not include films about violence in front of a child. Such pictures will be harmful to the fragile mind. They will harm the psyche and confirm the child in the opinion that aggression and force should help in any controversial situation.
Baby Bandit
Does everyone in the neighborhood call your baby a "tomboy"? Why did a sweet and affectionate child become a rude and inadequate teenager? If the parents at some point letraising a child by chance, then you should not be surprised that the child independently took up his education. But instead of learning something useful, the kid could get involved with bad company.
If parents are unfamiliar with their child's friends, and they are not at all interested in what their heir is doing on the street, then a child left to himself can do a lot of stupid things. Aggression will be his means of defense against all whom he considers outsiders. And everyone will be outsiders, except for their own gang. A good kid will soon become an evil child. The transformation will happen quickly, the parents will not even have time to come to their senses.
Further, the child may often end up in police stations and become a juvenile delinquent. And all why? Because the parents did not follow the upbringing of the child. You should always take part in the life of your child. Ask more often who the child is walking with, meet friends and every day ask what the child was doing on the street. Parents are required to make time for their child. It should be not only conversations, but also joint games and walks. Then the baby will fully develop, and will not acquire bad inclinations.
Addiction to Violence
An evil child is a child whose parents do not care. Adults must understand that any effect has its own cause. If a child behaves aggressively, then close attention should be paid to him. Cruelty is a quality that does not develop by itself. itmistake in education. The child is either belittled at home, or he is given too much attention and through antisocial behavior, the person wants to show his independence. The consequences of bad parenting can be devastating. The child will try to find himself, and the path he chooses will not be very good. For example, a teenager who has not been taught to work, and who is not allocated pocket money, can earn finances for entertainment by robbery and robbery. This behavior needs to be corrected. This should be done by professional psychologists, since from a certain age a teenager will deny the authority of his parents.
The addiction to violence is formed at a young age. The child will try various ways of self-assertion and they will not always be humane. Constant fights show that a person is trying to assert himself at the expense of strength. This way of solving problems is dangerous for society. Having developed a behavior model that works, the child can use it at a conscious age. Pickpockets, rapists and robbers are people who do not have moral standards, or they have them, but individuals are not afraid to transgress them.
A spineless creature
Why do children torture animals? The reason is that the child feels the authority of adults and believes that strong creatures always dominate weak ones. If parents put too much pressure on their child, it is not surprising that the baby will be aggressive towards animals. The child will be afraid to show his characterparents, but he will not be afraid to show it to animals.
By oppressing the weak, the child will feel superior. Such behavior should be severely punished. But first of all, psychologists advise parents to reduce pressure on the child. The kid should feel in adults not only strength and authority, but also love. It is necessary to instill in your child the idea that the more strength a person has, the more responsibility he has to others. Such a thought will have a beneficial effect on the child. He will understand that it is impossible to mock animals, as they are weak and defenseless. It is necessary to instill in the child the idea that weak creatures need love and affection. Such a statement must be formed from childhood. When a kid pulls a cat by the tail, he needs to explain to him that the animal is in pain, and it can bite or scratch. And that would be a normal reaction to bullying.
It should also be explained that you can not pick leaves from trees and break seedlings. The child must understand that living beings, even if they cannot fight back, feel pain.
Teach your child to solve their own problems
The psychology of children and parents is different. Children understand that adults are strong and intelligent individuals who can solve all problems. Every parent wants to protect and protect their child. But from a certain age, a child should be taught to be independent. The kid should be able to stand up for himself and at the same time solve problems not with the help of his fists, but with the help of logical arguments. It is not worth getting offended or hitting back. It is necessary to explain to the offender that he is wrong, and at the same time do it on his own, and not run to the tutor or teacher for help. Dependent children often ask adults to solve their problems. It is not worth giving in to such a desire. Why? The teacher can get into a scandal and punish the guilty. But the person will hold a grudge against the sneak, and at the first opportunity will take revenge. If you do not want your child to grow up weak, you should teach him how to solve his problems.
Teenage violence is not the norm. Cruelty and aggressiveness are the result of destructive behavior. Teenagers are trying to find themselves and learn to resist this world. Without the support of their parents, they can rush from one extreme to another. It should be made clear to the child that the problem can always be solved in a civilized way.
Teach your child the idea that fists should not be used even in the most extreme cases. But what about self-defense? A teenager should not bring the conflict to a fight. He needs to resolve the issue before it gets more serious.
Education through fairy tales
Children's cruelty to animals is quite common in any society. Many children do not see the difference between toys and living things. If the kid plays aggressively with soft bears, then he will play with a domestic cat in the same style. In this case, you should let the child understand that it is impossible to show aggression not only to pets, but also to plush toys. Parents should tell their child that toys are also hurt and offended whenthey are beaten. Some might say that lying to children is not good. Do not take such situations as a scam. You teach your child to respect everything that surrounds him. Parents should correct the behavior of their child if it goes beyond the boundaries of what is acceptable. It is foolish to think that the kid sees the difference between the animal and his teddy bear. For a child, any creature that is small in size is a toy.
How to raise a loving and understanding child? You need to correct the behavior of the baby with the help of fairy tales. Read more with your child. But it is not enough to read fables before going to bed. Parents should have conversations with the baby about what he heard. In any fairy tale there is a moral, and it must be conveyed to the mind of the baby. After you have read the fiction to your child, you need to discuss it. If the child is small, the conclusion should be made by adults. If the child is already large, then he himself must explain to his parents what he understood from the text read to him. Only conscious work on the meaning of the work will help the baby to better understand what is good and what is evil.
Developing empathy
How should child abuse be prevented? Adults need to work on the child's empathy. The child should be instilled with the idea that empathy is a normal quality of any person. If someone is hurt or bad, they should be pitied.
When a child understands what pain and resentment are, he will not purposefully try to harm others. How to carry out educational work? Walk more and talk with your child. For example, seeing how on the streetthe child fell from the scooter, you need to run up to the kid with your child and help the unfamiliar boy get up. After that, you should calm the baby together, take pity on him and, if necessary, treat the wound. After this indicative case, tell your child that such help is normal human behavior. Make the child imagine that a similar situation could happen to him. Let him imagine how he himself falls off the scooter, how he will be hurt and offended. Empathy will help the child understand that someone else's pain can be as strong as one's own. And understanding and accepting this fact, the baby will not push children or beat them.
Why do children become violent? Parents don't teach their kids empathy. Modern mothers are very concerned about the happiness of their own child, and often do not pay any attention to the surrounding children. And this is a must. Otherwise, you can’t explain to your child what someone else’s pain is, someone else’s happiness, what empathy and joy for others are - this is a normal phenomenon.
Authority for a child
Children's cruelty occurs in those families in which there is no authority. The child is used to copying behavior from his idols. And for every child, parents should be idols. But if the kids understand that their mom and dad are not drawn to the role of heroes, then they have to find a replacement in cartoons or in films.
Parents should be role models and objects of adoration. Children should love and worship their parents. In this case, they will copy the normal behavior, and notwill suffer from fits of rage, unless, of course, adults suffer from them. So think about whether you are a role model. Can a child be proud of your success and consider you a hero. Not? Change the situation. Otherwise, your baby will soon realize that he needs to look for or invent another idol for himself.
No physical punishment
If parents beat their children, then they should not be surprised that kids grow up into aggressive people. Violence is not to be welcomed under any circumstances. Even if the child is very annoying, you need to pacify him with words, and not with beatings. Parents who welcome corporal punishment breed aggressive personalities.
Children's cruelty directly depends on the behavior of adults. After all, imitation is a natural stage in the development of any child. If dad beats the boy for misconduct, then growing up, the teenager begins to beat his classmates for undesirable behavior. Is it adequate? No. Such behavior should not be acceptable in normal families. Parents should show their child by example that all problems can be resolved peacefully. No need to resort to using a belt every time you run out of arguments. You need to look for the right words and use them.
