Some people have no place for reality. They see and hear only what they want. Dreamers can even convince themselves of their feelings and sensations. Since these people wishful thinking, they deprive themselves of the opportunity to live their own life, to find their own happiness.
Why does a person like to be in illusions?
Because it's easier to accept your imperfection. Many of us deep down believe that we are worthless. As a rule, girls do not like their appearance, guys - power, career, profit or penis.
Why hurt yourself with the truth when you can coax your mind into wishful thinking? Well, if there are people who will support in their own illusions. As a result, what you want to have in real life is fixed in your mind.
At first there are doubts, for example, that you are a genius, but over time, a person who wishes for reality, thanks to loved ones who support him, is convinced of his significance.
Getting into the net of flattery, which is a trap for those who like to pass off invented as real, people become victims of unscrupulous citizens. The latter skillfully build their lives and careers on someone else's weaknesses. Cunning individuals specifically look for gullible braggarts and are masters at deceiving those who want to be deceived.
Among the people who wishful thinking, there are many who are quite sane, prone to analysis. Why do they often turn into real children, inventing ridiculous excuses for themselves?
A person is designed in such a way that he definitely needs to find an excuse for his failures at work, in his personal life, and so on. Thus, the protective mechanisms of the psyche are arranged. If this were not the case, then, most likely, we would say goodbye to life because of our own imperfection.
Saving lie comforts, does not give the opportunity to fall into depression. From this, we even feel happy in some moments. But, unfortunately, the fog is clearing, and we see the realities.
Sweet lies that save
Many people think that if they don't stop wishful thinking, life will turn into boredom. We are even taught to think positively, that is, to look at everything from a different angle, to see only the good. If you build illusions only about yourself, then there is nothing to worry about - your inventions do not interfere with anyone, do not embarrass anyone.
Things get worse when people around you fall under the illusion. BUTif a person endowed with power gives out wishful thinking, then his environment is simply forced to reckon with his illusions, to adapt to them. Very often, entire nations fall into such situations, commanded by someone who cannot face the truth.
Everyone who is with a wishful thinking person will suffer. If the head of the family builds illusions, then the spouse and children suffer. Agree that this is a double-edged sword. If you look at life without rose-colored glasses, it becomes boring, gray. If we take into account the saving lie, then the world becomes brighter. True, only in our imagination.
What is the truth?
What to do? How to find a way out of the situation?
First, understand that truth is neither sweet nor bitter. Remember this once and for all! It contains both sweetness and bitterness in equal amounts. How to take it? Simple!
Everything in the world has two sides, like a coin or banknote. Or more if we are talking about a cube, for example. Therefore, try to look at the world from all possible angles, and at the same time. Then you will understand that imperfection can be a virtue. Stick to the “All for the best!” rule.
Grow up mentally and gain self-confidence
Second rule - stop being a kid who has to make up stories about life to protect himself. When we face the truth, we grow up, accept the world as it is, take responsibility for life, the mistakes thatwe have done. In case of failure, there will be no one to blame for what is happening.
Third - get rid of self-doubt and fears. What should happen will happen anyway. And fear is very insidious - it attracts the bad, exactly what we are so afraid of begins to happen to us. This is how the law of attraction works.
Fear, which appeared in the earliest childhood, is self-doubt. At that time, you were weak, in need of protection and care. Self-doubt is a lack of acceptance of oneself, fear of mistakes and so on. The hardest thing to overcome is children's fears. They force us to pass off what we want as real, deforming life. It is very important to recognize the fear, see it in your eyes and start working on yourself.
Conclusion
Allow yourself and life to be imperfect. Look at the world with wide open eyes. Feel that it is beautiful precisely in its imperfection. You will soon realize that there is no need to wishful thinking, you need to learn to accept everything as it is.
