Often the root cause of our failures is our own perception of life. Most people believe that fate is cruel to them. However, the world is neutral to everyone. Everything that happens to us is just a reflection of our attitude towards life and the world.
Optimism and resilience
Emotionally stable people are able to easily adapt to any circumstances, focusing on opportunities. Any person who takes a new job will find that it is quite difficult for him to cope with the responsibilities. Sometimes it may seem that the activity is more difficult than it was before. Moreover, the new job takes more time and effort than the previous position. In fact, many people have a hard time getting out of their comfort zone, which is why they perceive changes in their lives very negatively. This phenomenon is temporary, and soon a person realizes that he made the right choice, but, unfortunately, this realization does not come at the right time.
It's important to understand that things don't always work out the way we want them to. At such moments, people act differently: some are ready to come to terms with the fact thatwhat happened, others regret. Emotional balance is to keep the hope that things can change for the better.
Reasons for negativity
Good attitude to life is formed from childhood. Our first teachers are always parents. If they believed that life is filled with negativity, troubles and bad people, then we will also perceive everything that happens to us.
Often, the experience of adolescence, namely the relationship between adolescents of different sexes, has a serious influence on the worldview. Women and men equally experience love failures, therefore, in the future, they begin to have a negative attitude towards members of the opposite sex. Of course, such "dramas" do not happen in all novels, but quite often.
How to change your mindset
Often, a value attitude to life arises in people who were able to overcome a terrible illness or avoid death. Realizing that they could lose everything in an instant, they begin to realize how petty and unworthy of attention were quarrels with relatives, conflicts with colleagues, as well as the constant pursuit of material we alth. Such people tend to enjoy every day, they perceive their life as a valuable gift and enjoy every moment.
Any person who, fortunately, has not faced incurable diseases and other tragedies, should realize that life can be very short. So try not to drive yourself into constant"frames" and the pursuit of material we alth, forgetting to appreciate the real moments, the smiles of relatives and friends.
Sometimes people do not have enough life to find its meaning. So maybe you should not live for something, but just for the sake of life?! This does not mean that we should stop making plans for the future. Without goals and desires, our life becomes boring and uninteresting. Just don't forget the importance of the "priceless gift."
Fighting negativity
A he althy attitude towards life is the key to success and happiness.
It is common for people to blame others for their failures. This is perhaps the first thing to start the fight with. Remember, if you have a bad attitude towards your work, then only you are to blame, because you could not possibly get a better education or find a better job.
Your wife is not perfect? It means that you did not have enough oratorical talent or intellectual abilities in order to find a common language with her and establish a joint life. Perhaps you hate people. Alas, but here the problem lies in you.
Therefore, it is so important to learn to take responsibility for your life, and also try to change it for the better. Remember that you are the smith of your own destiny, therefore, you do not need to blame the state, laws and people around you for your failures.
Calm your mind
In order to learn to control your own thoughts, you need to become aware of them. Let's try?! Take a deep breath and try to clear your head of all thoughts. So youcreate free space for something new, unusual and non-standard. Moreover, your mind is resting - it is you who take a break from its work.
Sometimes we load ourselves with problems and failures so much that we cannot look at the world in a positive light. At times like these, you need to stop! It can be a rest in silence, during which you must observe yourself and understand where your own thoughts are, and where are those imposed from outside. This technique should not be neglected. It is worth starting and everything will work out!
Resentment and guilt
Almost every person has a burden of resentment that he carries with him through his whole life. By continuing to “chew” unpleasant memories, people destroy their personality. In addition to inner harmony, resentment causes significant harm to the nervous system. Often, unpleasant memories trigger blood pressure surges and heart rate, which can lead to a heart attack.
It is important to understand that forgetting about the offense does not mean at all that you should be condescending to the offender's bad behavior or continue to communicate with him as if nothing had happened. Such actions give the past the opportunity to spoil your present and future. Try to switch to something positive in moments of unpleasant memories. Try not to keep talking about past grievances. If you once again notice that you are starting to complain to a friend, colleague or relative about the situation of the past years, then stop. Change the subject andtell me what makes you feel good.
Create a life that delights you
Take your time to think about what you really like. Growing up, most people concentrate on small things. We work at unloved jobs, spend time in an uninteresting company, and so on. It only happens because it has to!
If you've always wanted to draw, then do what you love. But! This does not mean that you need to quit your job. You can enroll in an illustration or painting course. Try to find like-minded people in your environment, and not those who regularly criticize your hobbies. One of the highest achievements of the individual is inner satisfaction, not outer status or prize.
Victim
This is often the name given to people who create "unbearable" conditions for their lives. They tend to complain about their husband, management, boss, relative, children, who are allegedly to blame for the fact that they live so badly. If such a person is advised to change something in his life, then he will find many excuses for not doing this. The strangest thing is that next to such people there is always someone who is ready to selflessly help. He is ready to give everything to alleviate the suffering of this "unfortunate one".
"Victims" are not able to enjoy the little things, they tend to focus on the negative aspects. Most prefer to live by the principle “I am good, and everyone around is bad” or “I am right in everything, but they do not understand anything.”
Unfortunately, such"victims" grow up in the family. And if you have noticed such behavior in yourself, then it's time to take your own life into your own hands and change it for the better.
Remember that you need to rely only on yourself. No one will improve your life.
Don't focus on problems
Attitude towards lifestyle should always be positive. When you think too much about what you don't like, you attract more failures into your life. For example, you do not have enough money, you cannot lose weight. At times like these, you need to focus on success.
There is another great way to deal with negative thoughts! Imagine that a terrible event has happened in your life that you cannot change. Try asking yourself if you can handle it.
Now try to imagine something you can't control. Let's say you've always wanted to be tall. Alas, this cannot be changed. So, you must get rid of these "obtrusive" thoughts. The same goes for thinking about missed opportunities. Remember that you live in the present, and you should only be interested in potential plans and achievements.
Important! You need to realize that only you control your perception of the world. You have no right to shift the responsibility for your life to other people. Sometimes all it takes to change a situation is to look at it from a different angle.
A wise attitude to life is based on experience. However, you have the opportunity to be inspired by the people around you. Therefore, draw motivation for yourself from the actions and achievements of others. Try to find the good in every person. And do not forget that we cannot change the world, but we can change our attitude towards it.
