A painfully familiar feeling when the body turns inside out, burns, burns, and the mind becomes foggy, when it is impossible to unclench rough fists, this feeling permeates in a second, you can neither hide from it, nor escape … But what is revenge? Is it really that important in our life? How do we place her in our thoughts?
Often we are betrayed by dear people, those who were near and supported, sang hypnotic songs in our honor and laughed at common enemies. How to forgive a knife in the heart?
Being aware of the consequences of your thoughts
What is revenge? It is a painful looping state that craves one-sided bestowal. This is a pain that needs to be returned to the owner, as lost wallets, car or apartment keys and jewelry are returned. It does not always bring joy, but the obsession with changing the course of running events does not leave our head until the planned is realized. This feeling harms our body and brings irreparable consequences, often pushing us to communicate with law enforcement agencies. It hasintangible power over a person, which is akin only to love. It makes you do unthinkable things, for which you then still have to pay the bills and with your own conscience.
Is it worth revenge?
What is revenge? Is revenge worth it? This is the wheel of fortune, where it does not depend on us what will happen next and how an innocent outcome will turn out. She breeds pride. Revenge is a sin! Orthodoxy says that insults must be forgiven to our offenders, forgotten and let go, but the mind says otherwise. Who to trust?
Defining one's own feelings
Thirst for vengeance… Few people have had this feeling for at least a second. Each of us has experienced at least once in his life jealousy, resentment for various reasons, but in response he acted purely on the basis of his character. The motive for revenge, if you think about it, can be the most ugly and unjustified. If we are satisfied with our lives, we have everything we need to switch and not stop at what is happening, then we usually do not perceive resentment as something transcendental, and with our coldness and indifference we only provoke the offender and make fun of how he eats himself.
Of course, in a rage we will not let this pass us by, but we will hold a grudge. And we will swear to take revenge at a convenient moment. Let's start hatching revenge on the former. At the same time, we will improve by quitting a hated job with an incompetent management team, take an unplanned vacation for an indefinite time and find ourselves a delightful man so that everyone cannot sleep with envy. But will it make us less unhappy than we really are?
We and the real world
What is revenge? We often draw it for ourselves. In colorful fantasies, we tear out the hair of lovers, splash poisonous acid in their faces, or push the former traitor off a cliff, but in reality we only exacerbate the problem, throwing more and more troubles on our heads: there, in the line for bread, they shouted at the slow, an innocent old woman, but in public transport they accused a young man of harassment, who, during a crush, was just trying to get to the exit, and here they beat an ATM that slowly gave out money, thinking and asking for unnecessary combinations … As a result, we only ruin our he alth, psyche, we become irritable, suspicious and vile, but will others be condescending towards such people, and will the long-awaited joy knock on the door?
Should I start my revenge?
Revenge will not make anyone happy, neither the offender nor the avenger, but it will destroy both lives. You will become hostages of unforeseen situations, and the rest will start to make fun of the free performance. Sometimes it is worth thinking about resolving the accumulated issues peacefully. But if you are sure that this is not your option, then you should carefully studyyour opponent. You can't go into battle without reconnaissance! Having done a dirty trick, a cunning person will definitely expect a counter blow, and if you do not wait a while, you will become just a weak-willed toy in his dexterous hands, put yourself in an unfavorable light for everyone to see. It is also necessary to focus on the offense inflicted, do not underestimate the enemy and do more harm than they did to you, because in return you will receive only revenge.
If your plans do not include a criminal record and a long detention, put aside the thoughts of terrible nasty things that are imposed by the civil and criminal codes. You do not want to make your situation even worse than it is, and put a huge cross on a bright future? Is it worth it? Also, do not take out evil on relatives and friends for anything, it will come back to haunt not good, especially if it was not they who became the perpetrators of the celebration of your seething blood.
How to get rid of the thirst for revenge?
Revenge is an unpleasant feeling. But if you want to get rid of this unpleasant feeling, first you need to stop being ashamed of your thoughts and the fact that you have crashed in a certain period of your life and field of activity, whether it be a personal or working part of it. Try to direct negative energy to learning something new, use free time to switch. Start vehemently fighting with yourself and your desires. Meditation, yoga, some types of needlework will help with this. Let go of the past, try to forget all the bad things that happened to you, and open up to the new. Startdiary, blog, pen pal, voice recorder, or make an appointment with a psychologist.
The long-awaited changes
Once you decide that you are ready to enjoy life and let change into it, you need to immediately begin to act. After all, there is no truth in words, only in deeds, and if you put it off until tomorrow, then it will never come. First of all, it is necessary to speak out so that an unnecessary heavy burden leaves our hearts, thoughts, souls and shoulders. Only acceptance of reality as such will help to rethink what is happening around and return to reality. We humans are all living beings who are able to think and reflect, we are characterized by grief and suffering, but why dwell on them? Probably the only way out is to stop thinking about what is happening as something tragic and start appreciating every moment - because it is beautiful and unique.
Time heals
It will take a lot of time and effort to fight revenge. This is not an ordinary cold, you won’t be cured in a week if you just drink the pills prescribed by the doctor and lie in a warm bed for a couple of days. Hospitalization, of course, is not required, but shielding yourself from people for a while would be welcome. As soon as you calm down and fill yourself with goodness from the inside, life will change for the better. Never take revenge! Be prudent in your actions and thoughts!
