What is charisma and male charisma in particular? By themselves, these words already hypnotize, enchant, draw in the subconscious the image of a person with a certain gait, demeanor, unusual voice, look. Women dream of meeting a charismatic man, and the representatives of the stronger sex themselves want to become one. The most interesting thing is that there is no clearly defined definition of what a charismatic man looks like. Everyone puts their ideas, their experience, etc. into this concept. However, let's still try to determine what kind of man can be called charismatic, consider some examples of such personalities and find out how to become a person who literally attracts you.
Charisma - what is it?
In the scientific community there are not one or two definitions of this concept, but more than 60! That is why we talk about ambiguity and breadth. The very concept of "charisma" appeared in ancient Greece and it means "gift". Here is the usualmeaning of the word "charismatic". A man who can be described in this way has magnetism. In Christianity, it was believed that such a person was endowed with great power, God's gift was given to him, he had a special spark. If we talk about the Russian language, then the synonym for the word "charismatic" will be "charming".
Why is charisma needed?
A charismatic man is, as a rule, a mentally strong, strong-willed, successful person, it is easy for him to achieve his goals, he feels great in society. Surely, at least once in her life, every woman has met a representative of the stronger sex, who, it would seem, does not stand out in any way - neither in appearance, nor in style of clothing, but he attracts, disposes, you want to be with him, communicate and so on. This is the charismatic man.
At all times there have been lucky and successful individuals, to whom everything is easy. They freely and naturally lead both three people and thousands, they win over them, they listen to them and want to obey them. These are bosses, and directors of any levels, and actors. Although there are many examples when a man does not lead either the country or the team, is not a cool boss, but the aura around him is simply magical. Women next to such representatives of the stronger sex feel confident, warm and comfortable. That's what a charismatic man is. Now it becomes clear why this trait is needed and why many people want to be just such personalities.
Max Weber aboutcharismatic person
Now let's look at what a charismatic man is in terms of psychology. The German political scientist and social psychologist Weber was the first to describe this concept from a scientific point of view. He believed that charisma is a unique quality of personality. It helps to look against the background of others as an exceptional, extraordinary person who is endowed with a special power that is inaccessible to most.
According to Weber's theory, such a man (rarely a woman) is able to influence huge masses of people, "charge" them with a certain energy. Today, this personality trait is a necessary tool for a successful manager, a leader who wants to influence the consciousness of the group, to subjugate people. In order to know how to become a charismatic man, you need to determine what features he should have. We will talk about this further.
Qualities of a charismatic man
- Individual and unique image. Such a person has his own external image, special facial expressions, gestures, gait, voice timbre, intonation.
- Total self-confidence. This is a rather multifaceted quality, but its main components are courage, determination, clarity in decision-making; complete independence, that is, the developed habit of relying only on one's own strength, not relying on others; the ability to confidently and specifically make others understand their position.
- Empathy and self-control. This is the ability to regulate, control your emotions, feelings. This is tact, flexibility,the ability not only to listen, but also to hear, the ability to understand other people at the level of intuition, to “feel” them.
- Courtesy, courtesy, lack of brutal behavior, harsh gestures.
Charismatic are not born, they become like this
If the above qualities are not inherent in you, then it is never too late to start working on yourself. No one is born great or famous right away, but the resources of a person allow you to achieve a lot in life, the main thing is to want. Take Arnold Schwarzenegger for example. He was not born with a biceps of 57 cm! Everything that we see today is the result of self-improvement, exhausting workouts. Yes, it's physical strength. But along with it, the flexibility of the mind, thinking, develops. You can train everything, including charisma.
Remember Winston Churchill. As a child, he had very poor he alth, did not study well, so his parents decided to send their son to an army class. And what happened in the end? He graduated from this class as one of 12 students, engaged in self-education, became a great orator, writer, journalist, influential political figure, winner of many awards, prime minister. This suggests that any person can become charismatic. How to work on yourself? What do we have to do? How to become a charismatic man? Consider several techniques.
The image of a charismatic personality
Create a relaxing environment for yourself so that you are not disturbed by people or sounds. Close your eyes, focus and clearly imagine the image of such a person,which will make you admire. This is not a real person, but just your fantasy. Imagine clearly his appearance, the ability to behave, conduct a conversation, style of clothing. Think of as many features as possible. Next, endow this image with the necessary qualities, present them in action. Do not rush to finish the exercise, everything should be fixed in your mind as clearly and specifically as possible. Now try to make everything real.
Controlling emotions
In this case, you will need a regular dice. Throw it, and subtract three from the dropped number. Depending on what the figure turned out, you have to control your emotions. If, for example, "-2", then you need to get rid of the two feelings that you are experiencing today (from despondency, laziness, hunger, etc.). If you got the number "1", on the contrary, come up with a feeling and develop it (inspiration, joy, happiness, etc.).
Feeling
Every day in the process of talking with a person, try not just to speak, but pay close attention to his intonation, voice, facial expressions, gestures, pauses. So you will learn to feel and “see” the inner world of other people, better understand their thoughts and actions.
Conclusion
The most charismatic men are speakers, scientists, leaders, politicians, and many others. For example, we all know such a person as Mahatma Gandhi. His main creed in life was the idea of non-violence. His charisma contributed to the fact that the masses followed him, people believed inthe possibility of resolving conflicts peacefully, and this is in a society that is simply overflowing with violence!
Steve Jobs is another example of a charismatic person. His biography is read more than the most popular novels and detective stories. He became a successful entrepreneur only thanks to strong personal qualities, inner strength. He believed that a person cannot become successful if he has not stumbled and failed before. It tempers the personality. If you make a mistake, then change the strategy, not the course! Follow this rule, develop and become charismatic!
