I always waited for the prince to arrive on a white horse. From a young age, I dreamed and imagined how everything would happen. But, as life showed, only the white horse on the prince came running, whom I, out of inexperience or out of desperation, took for the long-awaited betrothed. What is the peculiarity of these "princes" and is it possible to learn to recognize them?
It's really simple. In order to understand what he is, your prince, you need to present him in all the splendor of his advantages and disadvantages. Why do women often make mistakes? But because they are trying to ascribe conceivable and inconceivable virtues to their newly acquired faithful. And the result is disappointment. Let's look at the main myths about horses that make our lives worse, and at times even worse.
Myth one
Prince on a white horse Perfect. The first myth has always been that if we like a person at first sight, then we attribute to him all the virtues of supermen (well, or superwomen) without asking a single question.
Treatment: it is clear that from generation togeneration people are lazier and less literate, but you can find out where and what the chosen one does, how he spends his leisure time, what films he watches, what books he reads and whether he reads at all, and much more is possible. Take an interest in friends and surroundings. Listen not only to what he says, but also how he says it.
Myth two
Prince on a white horse Trainable. The most nightmarish delusion of the absolute majority of all girls, and even guys (although there are much fewer of them): "I can fix him / her!" You can't. If a person is young, then he operates with the fact that "I want to act according to my understanding," and if the person is older - "I'm already an adult, my life has settled down and become familiar, I can't be changed." I do not argue, there are exceptions, but at the same time they only confirm the rule.
Treatment: if your person did not immediately understand that something should be changed in his life, then try to chew the text syllable by syllable. Hear in response the above arguments or a shorter "went (a) …", then it's better to go. It will only get worse.
Myth 3
Prince on a white horse Striking. Now a distorted idea of love is very common, when they beat (although, as a rule, the one who beats believes that he just slapped him lightly, or does not remember such a trifle at all), grabs by the throat, and puts him on the windowsill of the fifth floor to scare. When you read this from the side, you think: “I obviously won’t allow this with me. And Sashka / Pashka / Dimka just broke loose once and slapped him. But he APOLOGIZED!” Expensiveladies and gentlemen too! Such people apologies are given time to spit. They fall to their knees, shed tears, beat their powerful chest with an equally powerful fist and swear that this will not happen again.
Treatment: Hit once, hit twice. This is reality. If you believe that every time will be the last, then remember the statistics about domestic murders. And even if it doesn’t come to that, it’s not a fact that you will live the way you used to. The longer the breakup, the more twitchy you will be in the future. Trust me, I got through it. It's been seven years since we parted, and I still twitch if I see a person who looks like him, and if I see him at the other end of the street, my heart shrinks from fear. And how masterfully I shy away from gesticulating people! Jackie Chan nervously smokes around the corner.
Fourth myth
Prince on a white horse Addict. This is one of the most terrible and hopeless options. How many women take their faithful to shamans, narcologists, witches and psychiatrists. They drive for years. My mother was like that. The father, out of spite, came and got drunk on the day of the coding to prove that he did not care. And then he twisted my neck. Well, delirium tremens came to visit more and more often. In a word, hell for the wife, hell for the children, hell for the husband. But there are even worse cases when other types of the above princes are superimposed on him.
Treatment: if a person does not want to change himself, then you will not remake him. Because only divorce and maiden name. Well, or forget about everything and together already sentence "greensnake".
Myth 5
Prince on a white horse Mamin. Have you ever heard, about a hundred times a day: “But my mother does it differently”, “But my mother said”, “My mother and I always go on vacation together”, etc. I don’t argue, I myself am a mother, and I want to so that when my son grows up, he listens to me. But if he talks like that, he will get the first cuff from me. But in fairness, I will first interrogate the future potential daughter-in-law with prejudice. A sort of test for lice.
Treatment: there are two options: either foaming at the mouth to prove your point of view in front of your prince and his mother, or try to "bend over" and win the future mother-in-law. No - it means that you need to go forward with your head held high for the new prince.
Myth Six
Prince on a white horse Self-affirming. This type of princes is as familiar to me as the Striking, as they usually go in pairs. The humiliation of the second half in the style: "Yes, here I am everything, and you are nothing" - from the opera of painful self-affirmation. It's another matter if you were given a fair remark that you overs alted somewhere or put on a blouse without noticing a speck. One friend's fiancé is simply self-affirming. And she has been with him for more than ten years … dating. He does not call her to marry, does not satisfy her in bed, and simply does not put it in anything, but pours mud "with a bang" even in the middle of the street. But she doesn't leave. At first, I thought I was patient. Everything turned out to be much more prosaic: beautiful, sexy, we althythe girl believes that if she breaks up with a guy, she will be alone forever. Moreover, because of him, she refused a well-paid job and marriage proposals from more worthy young people.
Treatment: run before it's too late. If you lose faith in yourself, you lose everything. You will recover later for years.
To the end of the story
We have looked at the most common types of princes, and I have given examples as far as possible to make it clearer. For the future, so that you do not get upset, I will tell you that these are not princes, but horses that galloped first. There are other types who like to feel sorry for themselves, blame others, manipulate people, or even Othello. I think many readers, and readers can give such examples. After all, I was also obsessively waiting for the prince on a white horse, but that's how wrong I was. And no, at least a normal horse got caught! So no, "as one, everything is for selection, and uncle Chernomor is with them." But, as the practice of my friends shows, after making a wish, let it go and forget it. And it will come to you when you don't expect it!
