Today we will be interested in trusting relationships. This is a very important moment in the life of every person, because the lack of trust is a sign of far from the best relationship. How to line them up correctly? What does that require? Can trusting relationships negatively affect a person? Read more about all the features of relationships between people.
What is this
The first step is to understand what a relationship of trust is. After all, without this it will not be possible to fully understand what is at stake. And even more so to build relationships of this type.
Confidential contacts are people in which citizens can trust and trust each other. For example, you are not afraid to tell someone your secrets and secrets. This is a kind of faith in mutual integrity, sincerity, honesty.
This is the type of relationship that families and couples should have. It allows you to maintain a friendly and favorable atmosphere. Unfortunately, relationships between spouses and children are not always trusting.
Beginning of formation
Every person sooner or later develops a character. And the style of behavior with people too. Building trust usually takes placefrom childhood, from birth. In any case, from the side of children and parents. That is why a child cannot be deceived.
If there is no trust in the family, then this is the model of behavior that the child will adopt. He will not learn to trust people. And, as a result, a trusting relationship for him will become something unimaginable.
Parents very often wish that their children could tell them everything and share everything. In practice, this does not happen too often - it is very problematic to maintain trust with adolescents. Therefore, you should know how to behave with a child if you have a desire to build a relationship of trust with him. Remember: losing them is easy, but getting them back is almost impossible.
How to build
What should parents pay attention to if they want to raise a child in an atmosphere of mutual understanding and trust? To the fact that it is necessary to show by example what a trusting relationship is. Although sometimes you can do without it.
To build a trusting relationship, you must convince the person that you are a reliable partner to whom you can tell everything. Share your secrets with your child and do not tell anyone what you promised to keep secret.
If a child needs attention, be sure to take a break and take a moment for your baby. At the age of approximately 3-6 years, children really like to listen to stories from the series "But when you were little …". Also, kids love to look at photos. Take advantage of thisopportunity. If you want to maintain good, friendly relations with your child (including trust), try to devote as much time as possible to him. Let him know that he can always turn to you for help.
In the team
But in the team, relationships have always been more complicated. It's hard to trust people. It is a fact. It has already been said that trusting relationships are easy to lose, but returning them is very problematic. Therefore, it is worth paying attention to their retention.
How to build relationships in a team so that they turn out to be trusting? Just be honest and don't let people down. If you can win over someone, and your reliability is proven (by time or deed), you can hope for a trusting relationship. Try not to deceive, do not let down the one who believes you. Otherwise, the relationship can not only lose the status of trust, but even completely collapse. So if someone believes you, don't neglect it!
Should I trust everyone
Many people wonder if trusting relationships are so harmless. It would seem that there is nothing suspicious in them. Faith is good. And when you always have someone to rely on, too.
Only if you believe everything in a row will a breach of trust begin. Before you tell something important to a person, try to analyze his behavior and character. It is possible that a friend tells secrets entrusted to him in secret from you.
You need to believe in people, but inmeasure. Otherwise, as already mentioned, there will be a breach of trust in your address. You will be deceived, and you will believe. As the saying goes, "trust but verify". Usually this rule applies to any interlocutor: a child, spouse, relative, colleague, simple acquaintance, friend.
Who should not be trusted
It is worth knowing what kind of people it is advisable not to trust. With them, keep in mind, you will not get a trusting relationship. After all, you are likely to be deceived. So your faith is being abused.
Don't try to build a relationship (trust) with a pathological liar. Such people always lie without even realizing it. Irresponsible people and those who do not keep their promises should not be trusted either. You can easily be set up. What kind of trust can we talk about? Avoid people who can't control their emotions.
Of course, true trusting relationships are excluded with those who once spoke negatively about you, did not wish good and "put spokes in the wheels." Most likely, the person just wants to ingratiate himself, so that later he can deal a serious blow.
Why mistrust occurs
Some complain, "I don't trust anyone." This is normal and common. It occurs in almost every second. It's hard to believe. Especially if in childhood you did not have an example of a trusting relationship. Where does distrust come from?
Firstly, this feeling comes from childhood. If you saw that parents do nottrust or deceive, there will be distrust of people.
Secondly, the negative experience in this area. Saying "I don't trust people" can be someone who once believed, and then he was framed or deceived. Most common option.
Third, because of the character. Some people are too prudent, they are used to not trusting anyone at all. In this case, it is recommended to contact a psychologist for help.
Stages of formation
If you do not take into account family relationships, then trust is formed in several stages. The first occurs at the stage of acquaintance. Here people get to know each other and analyze behavior, intonation, stories about life. This is usually not true trust.
The second stage is more significant. It drags on for a long time. It's about building real trust between people. Help and support play a huge role here. They must be repeated over and over. That is, they must be directed to the future. Otherwise, trust relationships will not take place.
Just at the second stage of formation, problems often arise. After all, if a person deceives at least once, it will be difficult to believe him. Sometimes it's even impossible. This is how human psychology works in relationships. If you are serious, try not to let your comrades down.
Learning to believe
Sometimes negative past experiences block trust. Therefore, many are interested in how to learn to trust. This will not be easy to do, but it is possible. Only work on yourself will help to bring the idea to life.
First of all, understand that negative experiences are also very helpful. Now you know which people cannot be trusted. Just consider it.
Next - just do one exercise. It will help you figure out whether to trust a person. Write on a piece of paper why you should not trust a citizen. On the other hand, why should one believe. Evaluate the pros and cons of the interlocutor. If the reasons for distrust are insignificant, they should be ignored. Draw your own conclusions from here.
Also try to act on the principle of "trust but verify". It's not as difficult as it seems. In the end, remember that it is enough to choose the right people with whom you will build trust. Usually such individuals do not lie, keep promises, help others and know how to control their emotions. Also here are interlocutors who sincerely wish you well.
It's basically impossible to learn to trust. Making the brain believe someone is not so easy. Sooner or later, you can give vent to emotions and lose trust in a person again. So the only thing you can do is work on yourself. Learn to analyze people by behavior. Then you'll be able to tell exactly who you can trust and who you can't.
