Sadness is a state of our psyche, which manifests itself as an experience of loss, grief and sadness. It most often has a negative connotation and is characterized by detachment from the usual life and the external environment. Sadness also happens with a positive bias, for example, when a person, remembering pleasant moments from childhood or adolescence, thinks that these times will never happen again. Everyone must experience such emotions at least once in their lives.
A person is in a state of sadness: how to determine?
Determining whether a person is in a state of sadness is not difficult. He becomes detached, withdrawn, withdraws into himself and his thoughts, sadness in his eyes. At such moments, it is difficult for him to be active, and there is no mood to do anything. There is no desire to communicate with people. I want peace and solitude. At times like these, life seems to slow down.
Often others try to help their neighbor, to pull him out of the vicious circle of sadness. Is it necessary? Most often, a person just needs to get sick, allow himself to be alone, if he wants to, cry and throw out his feelings. If he does not want to share hisexperiences, his condition, it is better not to impose, but to provide support when he asks for it.
Reason for condition
A person can be sad for certain reasons: parting with a loved one, unfulfilled plans and dreams, a series of small failures. A lot of things can unsettle your usual life. But all this is a consequence of the fact that life is not going the way we would like. These are symptoms that something needs to change. Those who have lost hope are overcome by sadness very strongly. In order to regain faith in the future, sometimes it is necessary to overcome several difficulties, in particular, those relating to internal changes. Changes in yourself and in life very rarely come easily and naturally.
Grieving is a major milestone in life, overcoming which is considered a huge achievement. A serious reason for the occurrence of such a condition can be the death of a dear person. In such a situation, only time can help. It is not worth trying to return the survivor of the loss to everyday life. Over time, the pain will subside, and he will plunge into the rhythm of ordinary life.
The sadness is gone - the consequences remain
What happens inside our body when we are in a state of sadness? Depending on the temperament and the cause of sadness, a person can either more or less calmly worry, or fall into hysterics or stupor. But in any case, most often in this state, pressure rises, the heartbeat quickens, which can lead to a heart attack. After losing a loved onethe risk of a heart attack is 21% higher than in the normal state. The adrenal glands produce more cortisol (stress hormone), which is fraught with insomnia and stomach diseases. The immune system is greatly weakened, sensitivity to cold increases. The brain begins to work harder, because during sadness a person thinks a lot, analyzes, remembers, suffers and looks for reasons.
When sadness passes, especially if it was not just an autumn blues, but something serious, the consequences can manifest themselves in the body for a long time. Heart and stomach problems may occur.
What to do about depression?
The state of sadness and sadness can develop into depression if a person does not make any attempts to cope with their emotions. Only a qualified specialist can determine whether it is sadness or depression. But there are some symptoms that suggest that a person has been pulled into a depressive state:
- apathy, lack of interest in life and any activity;
- feeling empty;
- excessive or lack of appetite;
- feeling worthless;
- insomnia or drowsiness and hypersomnia - increased number of hours spent sleeping;
- suicidal thoughts;
- inability to concentrate;
- avoiding problem solving;
- continuous feeling of tiredness even after sleep and rest;
- lack of motivation to do something.
If a person has at least five of the listed signs, heyou need to see a psychotherapist.
How to get rid of and whether to get rid of?
Whether it is worth trying to pull yourself out of the bonds of sadness or leaving everything as it is, so that it will pass by itself, depends on what sadness has overtaken you and the seriousness of its causes. If this is the experience of losing a loved one, then only time can return a person to a normal life. You can offer your help, but do not impose. A person must experience this and understand that life goes on, on its own.
If there was a life trouble not related to the death of loved ones (problems at work, disruption of plans, deceit and betrayal), then for a while you can withdraw into yourself. A writing technique can help: take paper and write down all the thoughts that are spinning in your head. It is necessary not to keep emotions in yourself, but to give them an outlet.
Well, if this is the influence of the weather, you can wrap yourself in a blanket for a while, brew delicious tea or cocoa and watch the rain drip outside the window, or read an interesting book or watch a movie.
What are the next steps?
Sadness is not a reason to give up on yourself. From time to time, each of us has troubles: we part with people, something goes wrong, the weather is not good. Although you can give yourself some time for sadness, you need to stop in time, analyze the reasons, learn a lesson for yourself and move on along the path to a happy life. No one but ourselves is responsible for our happiness. Therefore, the time will come when you need to pull yourself together, and if necessary, turn topsychotherapist.
Sadness teaches us that our life is a series of pleasant events and not so much, that we need to overcome difficulties in order to become stronger for ourselves and our loved ones, so that at any moment we can provide them with the necessary support.
