Each of us is a person - this is an undeniable and absolute fact. Each of us represents something, has a unique set of traits and characteristics of character, a unique psychology and worldview, which makes us so different from each other. And yet in human psychology there are several common points that unite all people on Earth, several psychological characteristics that are observed in each person. One of these characteristics of human nature is pride. But what is self-love and how useful is it in modern life?
Basic definition
Different psychological Talmuds define ego differently. But in general, they all agree that pride is nothing more than a defense of one's social value and relevance. In other words, self-esteem can be defined as a trait due to which a person constantly grows above himself, becomes better, smarter, more attractive and maintains his value in society. Relative value, of course. But is this character trait really a good incentive to improve your life? Everyone will find the answer for himself, because for each of us there is apersonal motivation. However, let's just say: without love and self-respect, further spiritual, physical and intellectual growth is impossible.
Pros and cons
But pride is good, many psychologists will say. And others will answer the opposite, they say, to ex alt oneself extremely is akin to moral degradation. And by the way, they would be right too. After all, a proud person, as a rule, tries not only to inform others about the constant growth above himself, but also in every possible way to maintain the illusion of his own superiority. Of course, this is true in the case when a person is too fixated on himself, but, as practice shows, even the most modest people are prone to exaggerate their own "I".
Human Praise
From the point of view of practical psychology, pride is a time when a person is actively fueled by various manifestations of social approval. In other words, when we are praised, we grow in our own eyes, and vice versa. A proud person, as a rule, builds in his head a certain scale of values and goals that must be achieved by all means, and for this it is necessary to constantly strive somewhere and do something. Of course, this is good, especially in those cases when a person strives for goals that are useful for him and society. But when a person intentionally follows the path of self-destruction and degradation, pride here plays a somewhat perverted role. It is always important to remember that this quality in itself is a catalyst for desires and actions, but not the main cause.
Selfishness
“No one likes self-loving people,” many say so. But in fact, people definitely like it, especially those whose psychotype is characterized by pride. Offending such a person is sometimes very simple - just say one word. Here, there is already a heightened self-esteem, in which a person focuses exclusively on satisfying his desires and needs, he is indifferent to those around him, by and large. We can say that too strong a manifestation of this quality leads to egocentrism, that is, to an extreme degree of selfishness.
Striving to be the first
But if we talk about normal, he althy pride, then this, of course, is good. A mentally and physically he althy person is always distinguished by self-esteem, and a fair amount. This is not a vice and not a reason for condemnation - such is the nature of people. After all, pride is nothing more than a motivation for personal and professional success. Young people are always proud, even those who are considered an example of modesty. This entails high ambition and the desire to succeed in whatever field. So you should always respect and love yourself - it's better to go too far than to underestimate yourself and your strengths.
Hurt feeling
Of course, you shouldn't intentionally hurt anyone's feelings, especially women's vanity. Indeed, in this case, not only will you just offend a person, but you can also permanently lose a good relationship with him. For female psychology, this is especially true, because, despiteon the uniqueness of each girl, yet they, like men, have something in common. Women, especially in adulthood, are very sensitive to compliments and words of flattery, so it is better to remain silent than to tell a lie. And, of course, the fair sex is more sensitive to comments about the appearance, behavior and way of thinking from the people around them. For a lady of any age, it is important to feel comfortable and calm, so it’s not worth it to point out any shortcomings in a straightforward, public way - just keep silent, but if it’s really necessary to draw a woman’s attention to this nuance, it’s better to tell her this aside, in private. And hurt pride will not suffer much, and you will remain in a normal relationship.
