Perfectionist: meaning of the term
Some people ask: who is a perfectionist? To do this, it is necessary to define one more concept: perfectionism (from the French. perfection - perfection) - a heightened desire for human perfection in all his actions and behavior created by upbringing and the environment. Accordingly, a perfectionist is a person who is characterized by perfectionism. He is convinced of the possibility and necessity of achieving perfection, first of all in relation to himself. Many psychologists, however, believe that perfectionism is not a virtue at all, but a serious personal problem that forms a low self-esteem of an individual, and also negatively affects the results of his activities. The perfectionist does not see the "golden mean", he has only two extremes: the worst and the best - his ideal. He does not see gray, for him there is only black and white. For him, there is only "ideal" and "non-ideal", and "not ideal" is absolutely everything except the ideal. In other words, he strives to do everything perfectly, betterothers, or do nothing at all, and he is completely sure of this. He sees asking for help as weakness.
Perfectionist - who is it?
This is someone who would rather not achieve anything than achieve something incompletely. The one whose thoughts set unrealistically high goals for him. Perfectionists are sensitive to public opinion. Any criticism hurts them. Perfectionists try to hide their flaws from others. They are afraid to expose their weaknesses. Therefore, they do everything in their power to become perfect. Failure or failure shows them that they are unable to improve themselves. As a result, they feel worthless and their self-esteem drops.
How do you determine to what extent the word "perfectionist" applies to you? Who is this and how to identify him?
1) You are very responsible, afraid to make a mistake, you are very attentive to details.
2) You strive to do everything as best as possible, perfect.
3) You spend too much time perfecting something.
4) You set absolute ideals, while everything else is unacceptable to you.
5) You are your own harshest critic.
6) You are sensitive to criticism from others.
7) You always represent the end goal, intermediate steps don't matter to you.
What if perfectionism isn't always a vice? Imagine what the world would be like without the great works of the worldliterature, painting, architecture, without great and wonderful composers? Let's look at this from a different perspective. Perfectionist - who is it? This is a man of creativity, creator, creator. The creator simply has to be a perfectionist, otherwise the writer who creates his work can wave his hand and say, writing on the first try: “it will do just that” or “it’s okay.” Could we have read Faust, Notre Dame, if Goethe and Hugo were not perfectionists? Would we still be able to see the Mona Lisa now if da Vinci decided not to perfect the image of the smile of the aforementioned lady?
We would not have heard "The Four Seasons" if Vivaldi, when practicing the violin, said: "I will not practice the part, and so it's normal." Thus, perfectionism is good only in some areas of our lives that really require an ideal to strive for. However, in ordinary life it is very difficult to achieve the ideal, because the society in which we live is far from ideal. So is it worth feeding yourself with meaningless illusions? Should I just live and enjoy every little thing?