It's no secret that people love to create definitions not only for visible objects, but also for very abstract and ephemeral things that exist only in the figurative world. In this post, we will discuss what an extreme is. This is one of the qualities inherent in almost every person. It cannot be felt or measured; it is a subjective and very relative assessment of behavior. Why are we so arranged that we can go to extremes, who decides what is extreme and what leads to behavior on the verge? We will discuss the topic in this post.
What is extreme?
It's not a secret that people are arranged quite peculiarly. Few of us are distinguished by calm and consistent behavior, easy perception of life, openness to new and unknown things. We are also difficult in relationships both with ourselves and with other people.
Society has long tacitly determined that there is a certain norm. However, why is it silent? Let's take any religion - it necessarily contains commandments that give an orientation to what is right. Violation of these laws is considered a deviation from the norm. Ignoring some commandments is punishable by law,such as theft or murder. Violation of others is simply not welcomed, condemned and called "extremes" by society.
Examples of extremes
For example, it is believed that you need to work five days a week. A person who exceeds the "norm" will be considered a workaholic, while one who does not work at all is a parasite.
In the Orthodox world, it is considered normal to have a family, for a woman to get married, and for a man to get married. If a person does not want to follow this "plan", leads a promiscuous life and has many partners, then he can be condemned for debauchery. The one who does not want to have ties with the opposite sex at all will be considered a puritan.
There should be enough money to buy "bread and butter" - an apartment, a car and loan repayment. If a person refuses material goods, this is not normal. Just as it is considered abnormal to run after money without restraint.
There must be two or three children. Refusal of children, the now fashionable concept of “childfree” is one extreme, and the desire to have a huge family is another.
Therefore, extreme is what is considered wrong, excessive by society. And that's it. What did you think?
How is life for those who "rush to extremes"?
You need to live in a way that is comfortable, and that it does not interfere with others. Blindly following religious dogmas, society forgets about this simple rule and does not give many people freedom of choice. A "man of extremes" can be rebuked and condemned for desires that are completely natural to him. You won't fallto the extreme, if you provide comfort for yourself and for others. The condemnation by society of those who do not violate these rules is extreme. These are the realities of life in society.
How to live right?
No one, including your parents, spouse, boss, priests, can tell you about the right life.
Everything is very subjective and varies from person to person, religion to religion. The extreme and the norm are different not only on different continents, but sometimes even within the same street.
You yourself feel uncomfortable sometimes, don't you? When do you eat too much or refuse food because of the diet? Or if, for example, you spend all your money on shopping?
People are arranged in such a way that they realize when they cross the boundaries of the norm - and the measure of this should not be the opinion of society, but an inner feeling of peace and harmony with oneself. The norm is peace of mind, peace of mind, lack of remorse due to actions. Nature and divine providence (whoever is behind it) have provided us with a barometer of correctness. Listen to your inner voice, not your neighbor, and you will do the right thing.
