At the moment in the modern world there is a situation of acute shortage of real men. When observing various kinds of subcultures, the question arises by itself: what is the male character like? Moreover, not only women, but also men suffer from it. There is a crisis of self-identification of the male population. Thus, answering a certain question, we decided to consider different options for the ideal of a man. After all, whatever one may say, the question of a truly masculine character leads a thinking person towards the ideal image of a representative of the stronger sex. To make the article not too boring, we decided to mix movie characters, literary characters and ordinary people into a cool cocktail.
Determination of character and its formation
Academic character definitions are boring and hard to understand for the unprepared reader, so we will try to answer the character question in our own way and as simply as possible.
Confucius said: “Sow a thought - you reap an action, sow an action - you reapa habit, sow a habit, you reap a character, sow a character, you reap a destiny.”
Thus, character is a system of internal personality traits that determines a person's attitude towards himself, the world and other people.
How it is formed, psychology, of course, knows, but all this is more like a hypothesis. Why exactly a person is like this, and not another, is still a mystery. But psychologists can still draw a general outline. There are two main factors: upbringing and physiological individual characteristics. Based on this, we can say that the male character is a balanced ratio of favorable external conditions and internal qualities. Example: Parents instill in their child the habit of setting goals and achieving goals. It also happens the other way around: a person develops an inner core in himself in order to avoid the harmful influence of relatives and get away from their influence. In short, it happens in different ways, but when you are over twenty-five, then it is already a shame to grumble at your parents. If by this age a person has not become anyone, then this is purely his problem. This is about the topic "defining character".
Proletarian
There are still those on the Russian land who do not sell cell phones, insurance, sausages and so on. It can be even shorter: there are still those who do not trade. Such men are gradually dying out, as their habitat disappears. We are talking, of course, about people of working speci alties. Take for example a person working in a factory.
The reader will say:this is an ideal, and where does the male character? Dear reader, have patience and imagine the life of a simple worker. He gets up every day, except weekends, at 6:30, and so for 30 or 60 years (usually they come to the plant quite early). A certain courage is needed here in order to live like this day after day.
Weak and strong sides of the proletarian as a type
It's hard for socialites and other pretentious girls to believe that this type of man can be attracted. And yet it is so. You can even say that this image of a man has a strong character.
Dignity. A man in this case conquers women with his simplicity, lack of frills. If the proletarian does not have serious personal flaws, he may even belong to the middle class in terms of income.
The trouble is that in any case, a person is oppressed by the routine of work and the lack of higher meaning in it.
If the proletarian is a person who is not prone to bad habits, then he will work for the benefit of the family and children. True, for this he needs a woman who is sensitive and understanding.
Flaws. Here it should be said that the severity of physical work involves certain types of recreation, which do not bode well for the person practicing them. For example, we can recall the life model of a laundry colleague of such a literary hero as Martin Eden.
The manager is the hero of our time
It is difficult to say whether the collective image of the manager has a male character. But given that now we have almost all managers, then, probably, we have. Imagine that the leadershop came to it initially as a cleaner, and then, thanks to a chain of accidents, became a director.
Although, probably, in Russian realities it is difficult to imagine such a scenario. By the way, the plot of the film "The Secret of My Success" with Michael J. Fox in the title role is built on a chain of well-organized accidents.
The manager is an enviable groom?
Dignity. If we imagine that there is still such a person in Russia (although this is improbable), then his undoubted strengths will be that he has risen from the very bottom and knows the value of money. He achieved everything himself. About the imaginary hero of our time, one can definitely say that he has a strong character. Almost any achievement in life is based on fortitude. In such cases, people say that a person has a core.
Negative qualities. It's hard to say here, the manager does not imply any specific professional deformations. It all depends on the person. Climbing further up the social ladder.
Medium businessman
For example, the owner of a construction company in a provincial town, not necessarily a small one. In general, in fact, the company can be any, even for the production of downy scarves. The main thing is not this. This type determines a relatively high income and a sense of self-worth. He is not accustomed to the limitations of his own desires. If someone asks: is the male character about him? Of course, in order to organize your own business in Russia, you need to have not only fortitude, but also courage.
Profession stronglyaffects businessman in family life?
It's hard to say, everything is individual. Everything depends on the moral content of each individual. The difficulty is that a business can be rooted in a person, or it can just be a job that a person does well. Therefore, variations are possible. When a good person is family-oriented, he will be an exemplary husband. If the family is of little interest to him and he entered into an alliance for the sake of domestic amenities, then such a man will treat his wife as an interior item. Children in this case will be perceived as something that "should be", but they, as a rule, are entirely the wife's concern.
Don't think this is hell. Some women not only put up with this state of affairs, but also passionately crave it. They are ready to exchange their freedom not even for everyday comfort, but for some social and existential guarantees, not knowing that in fact they do not exist. No one can promise anything one hundred percent.
Millionaire
Finally, we got to the icon of most modern women. And even looking for flaws is somehow inconvenient. Because the millionaire, from the point of view of most women, is “woven from nothing but solid virtues”, like the hero of the famous film by E. Ryazanov. But our task is analytics, so let's digress from these conventions and boldly rush in search of the rich man's shortcomings.
Of course, according to women, he is a strong man. The proof of his power is precisely the means that he was able to earn.
At a time when much is valued in money, people are ready to worship the one who could tame them.
Disadvantagesmillionaire like type
Awkward, but still have to break this light look.
First of all, a millionaire's wife is a thing and a tool, not a person.
Secondly, a woman who marries a rich man does not belong to herself. She is not free.
Thirdly, complete non-government provision can at one not too pleasant moment turn into complete collapse and absolute poverty. Millionaires have good lawyers, which means well-thought-out marriage contracts.
This is the reverse side of the image called "strong man" - a millionaire model.
Superheroes are the ideal?
Why is Batman or Spider-Man such a delight in women? It's not hard to explain. Superheroes are a woman's dream come true. On the one hand, Bruce Wayne is a millionaire, and on the other hand, a sense of justice is not alien to him. He is a crime fighter and dark knight of Gotham. In a word, a handsome man. By the way, B. Wayne is also a dream because he is one of the few humane, philanthropic rich people. It’s even somehow embarrassing to ask: does he have the character of a man? Of course! Still would! Testosterone is just off the charts.
"Spider" is a much more modest character. He's just a dumbass photographer. Not as cool as Bruce Wayne, but still cute.
The main thing about both characters is that they are heroes. Every woman has a little girl who dreams of a prince. Batman in this sense is a more stylish option than the classic son of the king, and horses are out of fashion now, the Batmobile is another matter.
Married tosuperhero. Can it be imagined?
An old joke comes to mind: "the ideal husband is a deaf-blind-mute sea captain." Indeed, a fighter against evil is not much different from such a sailor. Therefore, comic book characters only have girlfriends, but no wives. Otherwise, they would get fat and out of shape, and they would have to retire, and who needs it?
No, the heroes must be left alone. This adds to their image of romanticism. In addition, they are always young, sexually active and gentlemen. If the "spider" or Batman is not a gentleman, then he is already a villain. This is such a sad life for superheroes - only within the framework of good always and everywhere. By the way, it doesn’t matter if a person is evil or kind (or a hero), but the character of a man does not suffer from this. Guys can be anything.
Real and imaginary writers
Real writers tend to be boring and write all the time, hence their name. Therefore, it is not interesting to talk about them. We will talk better about those writers who are familiar to readers and viewers: about the Master from the main novel by M. A. Bulgakov and about the rebel writer Hanke Moody.
Master is the dream of all romantic girls. He is smart, handsome, talented. These are his best qualities of character. True, at the same time he does not have a penetrating power, vulnerable, painful. In other words, the Master is such a generalized ideal not of a man, but of a creative person in general. The master is in a sense a very feminine image. But for girls who are not interested in money, but want pure and big love, it is very suitable.
It is noteworthy that the Master and Margarita could not be together on earth, but only in peace (we deliberately did not say "in heaven", because it is not entirely clear where exactly the couple is in the finale of the novel). And this is absolutely true. If you continue this love line on earth, then at best, Margarita and the Master would have been lovers all their lives, and at worst, the Master would have disappeared in a lunatic asylum, and she committed suicide.
If you mentally cut off the journey of the couple with Woland, then this is how it ended up. Everything ended well. Everybody died. And those who didn't die went crazy.
Hank is known to have been based on Charles Bukowski. I must say that Hank is a softened and “heavily combed” image of the founder of “dirty realism”. What to do, Hollywood sins with a weakness for beautiful pictures. In fact, if Bukowski had been offered a radical choice between alcohol and women, he would have stayed with the former. Fortunately, the reality of such a choice did not offer, and he interfered with the two substances among themselves in unlimited quantities.
If one of the ladies reading this says no, we are not attracted to Hank at all, they are deceiving either us or themselves, because the ratings of the series do not lie. And it's definitely not just men watching.
Hank is liked by women, because the writer offered to the viewer is a brutal image (his character, I must say, is so-so) of a real bad boy. Let's be honest, bastards have always liked women more than good guys. Even S. Dovlatov wrote in Compromise: “Here I am good,and who needs me? The classic question of all great guys.
Hank hypnotizes women because he is pure testosterone (even more so than Batman). He embodies every girl's long-held dream of a bad but charming romance.
By the way, and if we draw a parallel between the two imaginary images of writers, then we get the following: if the Master was born in our time, he could well turn into Hank. This is how the 21st century is worse than the 20th.
The godfather as the ideal of a family man. “A woman can be careless, a man never”
It is clear that all previous movie heroes and literary characters would be bad husbands, but not the Godfather - Don Vito Corleone. Of course, provided that we renounce his professional activities and the specifics associated with it.
Michael's father is in some way the ideal head of the family.
- Smart. Witty.
- Always protecting his family.
- Not fond of women, alcohol and gambling. In other words, no bad habits.
- Despite her leading role in the family, she tenderly and tenderly loves her wife, the mother of her children.
- Lovely (perhaps even excessively) her children.
Even this superficial analysis of the image of Don Corleone shows that positive male character traits predominate in him. And the phrase from the second part of the film trilogy, when Vito goes with a friend to the theater, where the latter’s girlfriend plays, and he asks the future Godfather: “Vito, is she really beautiful?” - For you, maybefor me, only my wife and children exist.”
What woman wouldn't want to hear such words addressed to her? One problem: not everyone will come to terms with the moral character of Don Vito. The character and personality of the head of the mafia would be simply gorgeous if he did not drown his hands in blood.
Parade of ideals
The image, created jointly by Marlon Brando, Francis Ford Coppola and Mario Puzo, crowns our article. Its result is a little sad, namely: we have come to the conclusion that we have representatives of certain social groups (proletarian, manager, businessman, millionaire), who are considered ideals only due to a misunderstanding, because "everyone has their own shortcomings", and movie heroes, only one of which is generally suitable for marriage.
If we ask ourselves what qualities a modern man should have, the answer will be ambiguous. The male representative today is endowed with the following features:
- Workable.
- Beautiful.
- Neat.
- He makes good money.
- Loves women.
- Striving for strong relationships.
- Collectivist according to corporate ethics and individualist in spirit. Ideally, these qualities should merge in some way, forming a harmonious unity.
- Doesn't drink much (for a country that consumes 15 liters of alcohol per capita a year, this is an important parameter).
In principle, any of the types presented here (meaning only real "examples") can strive for the ideal of a modern man who embodies the best male qualities. Male character, respectively, in terms ofactual views should be like this.
We are all smiths of our own image
It is clear that a real man can only be with the right, suitable woman nearby. If a girl meets her boyfriend every evening with a stream of endless claims, one can hardly count on the fact that he will become the ideal male. Although, perhaps, such an appeal motivates some. In other words, in reality, the character is different, each has its own. But we can all get a little better.
The main thing to understand is that no one is hopeless (except, perhaps, a drug addict and the last alcoholic), a skilled craftsman can create a work of art even from bad material.
So a woman should not wait for the ideal of a modern man to come into her hands, but she can always create it from what was, because there are few princes (as well as perfections), and there are not enough of them for everyone.
The appearance of a man who fell into her hands can be changed, he can be motivated to extract money. Of course, not with a frying pan, but exclusively with affection and a good attitude. When a sculptor gets a piece of stone, he first of all evaluates the quality of the material, its prospects. So a woman, looking at a man, should see not what he is, but what he can become. Let's not hide the ability to see the true human essence - this is a great art, and it takes years to learn.
To summarize, we wanted not only to talk about the best male qualities, but also to amuse and entertain the reader a little. We do not know if we havesuccess in this matter, but we want to believe that yes. In any case, our classification of character was not scientific, but nevertheless there were distinctive features of certain types of men. And this should be useful to the reader.
