Many of us would like to get an answer to the question of what it means to be bored. The most curious thing is that in foreign languages there is no absolute analogue of this concept. In some cases, the verb "remember" is used, in others - "to be sad." Why don't they fully reveal the meaning of the word "bored"? Let's figure it out.
What the dictionary says
The most complete concept is presented in the dictionary of D. N. Ushakov. It contains three meanings of the word, one of which is somewhat obsolete. In the 19th century often, the verb "to be bored" was understood as some kind of mental suffering from idleness. To experience boredom means to languish from doing nothing. It is no coincidence that M. Gorky offered an effective alternative to such suffering:
Whoever works doesn't get bored.
We also rarely use the second meaning of this word. It is easier to explain it through a synonym. To be bored means to get sick, to experience physical and psychological suffering. In the works of Russian classics, one can find expressions whereit is said that this or that hero missed his legs at night, for example. This means that the pain kept him awake.
But more often we use the verb "to miss" when we talk about the painful experiences associated with the absence of someone or something. It is this aspect that we will analyze in a little more detail.
Synonyms
The best way to understand what it means to be bored is to look at verbs that are similar in meaning. In the concept itself, two points should be highlighted:
- There must be an object that makes us feel something.
- You need a word that describes this emotional process.
Who or what can you miss? We list the most common objects:
- Friends, parents, other relatives and loved ones.
- Pets.
- Beloved person.
- Homeland, certain places with which bright memories are associated.
- Home.
- Activity, which for one reason or another is not possible to do.
What feelings do these objects evoke in a person when we use the term "bored"? We list the main synonyms:
- to be sad;
- to yearn;
- to be sad;
- languish;
- mourn;
- languish;
- remember.
We deliberately do not use the word "love", although in the minds of many it is the main source of what we miss.
Love or emotional addiction?
In romantic relationships, the most commonly used verbs are "bored" and "wait". This is understandable. When lovers part, all their thoughts are devoted exclusively to the object of passion, that is, to each other. Even during an exciting activity or interesting communication, nothing can knock down the dominant present in the brain. The main desire of a lover is to be close to a loved one again. What does "bored" mean to him? Wait for the moment when this happens to touch the partner, hear his voice, kiss.
The state of being in love can be described by the following words:
- languishing without affection;
- sad;
- offended by the fate that does not allow to be near a dear person;
- wanting to meet again.
Psychologists consider harmless the confession of a man in love that he is bored. Especially during a long separation. However, this state, if it becomes obsessive, does not speak of strong feelings towards a particular person, but of emotional attachment and even dependence. It is characterized by the fact that a person loses personal autonomy and begins to suffer in the absence of a significant subject or object for him (a favorite thing, for example).
More on emotional addiction
Close people are communicating vessels that influence each other. At one the mood has deteriorated - the other begins to be sad. If the spouse is worried, anxiety settles in his heartwives. However, even relatives living together cannot always be in the same state of mind.
Someone is more annoyed, someone is tired of communication or of relationships in general. These negative manifestations are immediately transmitted to a partner or household. They begin to make extra efforts to get a loved one out of his state, and then they themselves begin to get nervous and break down.
This strains a person who feels a huge responsibility for what is happening. But he cannot constantly show empathy, entertain loved ones and give them only positive emotions. And if they begin to suffer, then we are talking about emotional dependence. From which it is bad for both sides. It is possible that a person decides to leave such a relationship, and then the partner will have to be bored alone.
As a rule, the most severe suffering will be experienced by people who are not independent, in need of outside control and guidance, problematic and socially immature individuals. Those who cannot live without the dope of love and attention. What is the synonym for this phenomenon? Being bored means being emotionally dependent on other people or things.
Is it possible to be bored joyfully?
There are situations when we are far from our usual life. For example, a guy serves in the army or a girl went to study in another city. Of course, both will miss their relatives, their home environment, their mother's favorite meatballs, school friends, a dog, etc. Let's get back to foreigners. What would they say?
- Guyconstantly remembers mom's cutlets.
- A girl is sad for a dog that has no one to take her for a walk.
What does the Russian language add when introducing the word "bored"? Painful experiences. We don't just remember about mom's cutlets - we are not able to feel completely happy without them. So is it possible to be bored joyfully? We hope that the readers themselves will give the answer.
Key Findings
What does "bored" mean? Fall into an emotional trap that has nothing to do with true love and other similar feelings. Realizing this, a person needs to work on developing his own personality, becoming more understanding, independent, busy, interesting for loved ones.
